She brought this up after making love last night. I love her and I know she loves me. I am not sure. On one hand it is exciting but not sure if it would help spice things up for us or not. She seems excited about it and wants to go this weekend.
2006-11-15 00:22:35 · 22 answers · asked by mrdjj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you have any doubts at all i would suggest not doing it. swinging is a totally different lifestyle that involves communication an absolutely no jealousy whatsoever. we have seen a lot of people get hurt because they weren't secure in their relationship. however if both of you are up to it, it is very exciting and it does help spice up the sex life. you could always try soft swinging, (that's where you guys don't actually swap at the sex), just lots of foreplay and stuff with other couples. whatever you choose good luck to you both
2006-11-15 03:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by mj_jll 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You said the key words. "Not sure" So therefore: Inaction is the best course of action.
She just brought the subject up, what is the rush? You deserve time to research the topic on line and see if its something that truly interests you. Then whatever you decide will be an informed decision. It takes a special type of person to be involved in the swinging lifestyle. The majority of people are not capable of living that way.
I have not participated in swinging. I did research it and concluded that it is not the lifestyle for me. It took me 2 months to come to my decision. You need to really stop and think about what you really want, and you need more than just a few days to do it.
Slow down! For the moment tell your wife no.
2006-11-15 00:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well really depends on how much you want some strange man pawing all over your wife.. and how you will be able to forget it when the evening is done with.. for that fact what she is going to say about another woman with you.. that is your real question.. if the two of you have been with other folks before it shouldn't be a big deal.. but if this is your first time.. you may not like what goes on the next day.when you really see what happens here.
think about it don't want to ruin a good thing just because of a swingers party.
2006-11-15 00:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Talk to her about your insecurities on the matter. As long as the both of you have a solid marriage, it may be a ggod thing for you. Don't forget to set some ground rules though. With out any rules it would be easy for one of you to think it no big deal and sleep with some one behind the others back. But as long as the two of agree to certain things about it, go for it.
2006-11-15 00:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would need to be a decision that you make together. Be very careful. I know of one couple where the man regretted the decision and now they are divorced. Maybe go and just watch the first time. Come home and talk about it. Go from there.
2006-11-15 11:18:55 · answer #5 · answered by Inquiring Mind 19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something your going to have to examine both morally and religiously. Have you thought about the future and what that may bring? maybe you or your wife will find another? there are all kinds of repercussions to this. I have never heard of anyone that joined these clubs that were ever happy and usually ended up getting a divorce down the line or worse. I would also include the development of drug behavior in this type of involvement. I just don't think it's a healthy environment for anyone happy.
2006-11-15 00:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There is really no good reason not to go. Going to the club doesn't mean you have to do anything; nobody's going to hold a gun to your head. Just having been in that kind of sex-charged environment, though, might make your wife really hot for you later that night. Also, you might realize that it looks like a lot more fun than you thought.
2006-11-15 00:26:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
We had the same questions, but did go to a nice club and had a great time. Going to a swingers club does not mean you have to do things with others, you can dance, talk, tease, just to find your limits.
2006-11-15 01:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by greatimes 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The fact that you are asking this question leads me to believe that you aren't on board 100% with the idea. How do you fell about another man touching your wife? If you aren't $100 okay with it then it's probably not for you.
2006-11-15 02:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats you have a sexual woman they are few and far between hold on to her for as long as you can. I would go to a swingers club as long both of you want
2006-11-15 00:40:05 · answer #10 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋