my partners gran died yesterday and already his family are dividing up her property and deciding what they are having. When he asked for a photo of his grandparents he was told that everything is going to someone else in the family. I think that its disgusting that they are dividing everything up the day after she died and even worse that they are all taking things from her house so soon.
2006-11-15 00:20:48 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That happened when my next door neighbour died, his relatives came up from the country and descended on his house like locusts.
"The grabbing hands, grab all they can, all for themselves, after all, it's a competitive world" - Depeche Mode.
2006-11-15 00:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good question.
Both my parents recently died leaving a substantial inheritance.
I would rather not have been left anything than to have gone through the horrible dividing up of their estate.
To tell you the truth, I think I'd do a favor for my children
if I spend my money while I'm here.
The sickening details on this subject are too long to list.
Plus it seems that the rich people in the family are the greediest.
You have a point. It's like not acknowledging Jesus on Christmas.
2006-11-15 08:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by upcomingplayer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a bit soon - especially if was unexpected. But on the other hand - it might be their way of dealing with it - to ignore the pain they are feeling and just get on with sorting things.
As for him not being allowed a photo of his gran - who said that - and who put them in charge exactly? My advice would be to ask whoever its all going to to make sure your partner has a photo of her - no matter what - as he's not asked for anything else.!
My gran died 8 years ago, and my grandad was 6 months before her - I loved them both so dearly, I asked for my grandads big whisky jar (he used to keep change in it) and my mum believed my nans jewellery should be divided between the 4 daughters and 4 grand daughters. Me, my mum and my little sister never saw any of it. My aunt took over (being the oldest) but my nan and grandads belongings still have not been sorted. Its been 8 years. ! Its almost like we cant put them to rest.
so - in some ways - it could be a good thing (although a little soon) to get it sorted as it might be how they deal with things.
problem you have is - its not your immediate family - so its up to your partner to stick up for himself
2006-11-15 08:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry - I thought this was a question on cannibalism.
But OK, I am here now so will continue. I totally agree with what you are saying. It is almost as if they are waiting for the person to die, eyeing up anything of value for the 'big day'
Sad or what? The best way is to make sure, preferably before you die, that you leave a will and clear instruction to whoever will be executor, that nothing gets touched before the will is read. Then see the faces of the vultures!
Let them take whatever they are so bent on taking - I hope it brings them nothing but bad luck.
2006-11-15 08:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by superman in disguise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not being greedy when someone dies, it's that it tends to stick out a little more when there's a death. You just have to pray for people like that and ask God to show them the way to give than to be so quick to take.
2006-11-15 08:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is terrible. It is when we see people's real faces. When my wife passed away, within a week I had people round all the time asking for stuff belonging to her, including family who didn't have the time of day for her when she was here. A few were very respectful about it, asking me if I would be so kind as to pass something on (of my choice) to remember her by. Their wishes the rest I rejected. I have since fallen out with her family over this and I say got riddens to the whole f***ing lot of them.
Vultures!!!
2006-11-15 08:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by spear_1021 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean when my nan died my mums sister and her daughters grabbed all of her jewellery told my mum it wasn't much anyway. My grandad is still alive and has only just found out and is disgusted.
I am bothered by the sheer greed and the complete nerve of them but it just shows their true colours. Still I've got my memories and if it's true we all do pop off to heaven she'll be sitting up their waiting to give them a piece of mind. That is comforting.
2006-11-15 09:34:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are so greedy these days. they have no respect for anyone, and once someone dies they feel they have the right to take it all. some people think they are entitled to everything and don't believe in sharing. it's so sad that he couldn't even get a picture of his grandparents.
2006-11-15 08:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice if people could take the time to care for their family while they are alive instead of being such greedy vultures after they have died.
2006-11-15 08:32:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad to say we see the worst and the best in people at times like this. vultures always circle after a death. remember it's only stuff and nobody can take away the love or memories of that person. they can grab the stuff but they too will die and their stuff will be meaningless to others. if you are meant to have something it will come to you..if you grab things they will slip away. try to keep your energy loving and forgiving. they are only human and are grieving in their own way. the desperation to own the possessions of the departed is not very spiritual and shows a lack of faith. pray for them for they are truly lost. God's love and comfort to your partner. try not to judge his relatives but support him. love M
2006-11-15 08:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋