You both dont want to ruin your family and you both have a beautiful family but you crossed your way got into not serious relationship, sneaking out to see each other. Being careful with every move, find a good answer to every question. Successfully handling the forbidden relationship and living in a pretentious life. You know what your doing is not right but everytime your together its like your in your own happy world.
2006-11-15 00:07:37 · 36 answers · asked by jhennie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do understand how you want it to be right now.(everyone has their own little secret)
Sometimes ppl tense to know its wrong to have such a relationship,but certain ppl still want it for just “thrilling and fun"
No doubt you don't really go for serious relationship(cause you cant now,you are married)but these may lead you to ruin both "beautiful families",cause now you are having wonderful time with him.Careful
(don't give yourself any excuse)Do not presume that this wont happen,cause you says "You know what your doing is not right but everytime your together its like your in your own happy world."
If you love your family ,leave him now.Since you had already had enjoyed the happy times with him.Is time to leave before it gets worst.Don't over enjoy it.Don't play with FIRE.
Now there maybe another issue,he might not let you go if your relationship is ‘deeper“Do it before it get into another problem.
Good Luck
2006-11-15 00:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by curiousmode 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love both people and the life you live at home, and the life you share of the side with your BF... Then you have to accept that this is the best it's going to be... At this point you have to decide if you want to continue sneaking around, continuing the deception and enjoying your time with your BF... or give it all up and return to your married life and try to enjoy what you have...
I'm sorry to say there is no solution... It's a relationship trap that many people fall into... The sad part is that you really develop a love for both people... and that becomes very difficult to deal with... You either have top break it off, continue on the sly or divorce... and by now you know the only answer in your heart that is acceptable...
2006-11-15 00:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is the second time that you have asked this same question and the second time that I have answered this question. I still feel the same way about it as I did the first time. Are you trying to convince your self that you are doing the right thing by cheating on your husband? Well your not. You do not love your husband or you would not being doing this. Why don't you just divorce him and let him have the kids cause you sure don't love any of them or you wouldn't be doing that.Then you can go screw what ever you want to then cause you will not be cheating then. Just don't get some one that has some body else. You are so nasty and your kind makes me sick!!! You really need to go get some self respect as you have none.
2006-11-15 00:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak the truth... Humans are not monogamous by nature, but by social conditioning. What is clearly wrong is the dishonesty and deception.
It sounds as if you love both your spouses and each other and love is not diminished by the number of people you love.
You need to be honest with your respective spouses, no matter the outcome. Tell them how you feel about the other relationship and tell them how you feel about the existing relationship as well.
Clearly your in the wrong here, and are likely to suffer the consequences of your actions. Dishonesty is the road to relationship destruction. And that may happen.
But by being open with every adult involve,, there is an opportunity to, repair things or even expand to a new kind of relationship that may even be better than what you have now.
Check out:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory
I know from personal experience that the relationship I have now is stronger and more vibrant than it ever was before she opened up to me and said she fell in love with someone else too. That was 15 years ago and our relationship has been even better since. She was honest with me and continues to be open to this day.
2006-11-15 01:45:21 · answer #4 · answered by jryanwinterhaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a mess you have gotten your family into! Your familys are already destined to fall apart! and for what sexual gratification? Our country is falling apart and need good wholsome familys, the only way to solve this problem is to get it out in the open and tell the truth all of the truth, you can not keep going on like this, it will mess with your mind and not to mention if you have children you will be teaching them that it is ok to fornicate and be decitful, that is not how we raise good men and women by setting a false hope of happiness. DO THE RIGHT THING! Good Luck
2006-11-15 00:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by twinki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are really in love with is the intrigue of sneaking around, And your ego feed off of the successes of making it work. Your thrill seeking is a very dangerous game. I do recommend that you find another way to get your trophies. Before you find yourself ruining everyone life's including your own. I really feel that you do love them both. But I don't believe that you are (in) love with either of them. And I do know that you understand what I am saying. So my recommendation is to give up your boy friend and try to seek other mean of intrigue without cheating on your husband. And maybe just maybe you can save what is left of your marriage. And if you find that an impossible thing to do, them cut them both loose and try starting again with someone that you are truly in love with........
2006-11-15 00:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't be solved, but will take care of itself with an unhappy ending for most. You just can't have 100%'s of a persons love and devotion when someone or something has part already.
2006-11-15 00:50:03 · answer #7 · answered by greatimes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if a guy treats me well and says it all the time, it's perfect. If a guy isn't really nice and he says it all the time, it's really sad because he's lying about something very important. my guy is absolutely perfect for me and we say it to each other often and I would never want it any other way. if he stopped telling me he loved me daily or if he was just the type of person who didn't like expressing his feelings that much, I would definitely worry constantly that he was losing interest in me. Some people think if you say "I love you" all the time you wear out the meaning, but I think saying it all the time strengthens the meaning
2016-03-19 08:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can look at all the positive things you gain by sneaking around on your husband!!
1.) It makes you cheater
2.) And a wh0re
3.) You get the fun and excitement of destroying your husband and your children when they find out that mommy is cheater. And a wh0re.
4.) You get the satisfaction of knowing what GREAT morals you have to pass onto your children.
5.) You can be truly happy in knowing that you're a selfish, immoral person, and it is highly unlikely that you even deserve too have the beautiful family that you have.
Hope that helps you to feel sooo much better!
2006-11-15 00:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by Shakira 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I don't want to sound mean, but you sound like you are having some real emotional needs that are not being met. Maybe self-esteem problems to get yourself into this in the first place. You need to stand up for your family and get out of this secondary relationship. You are de-valuing and disrespecting yourself for being in it, and unfortunately, the kids and families involved you are also disrespecting and de-valuing. You are being deceitful to your husband and your children. Get out of this... and do it now before someone gets really hurt, and I mean your kids.
Be a mature grown up and make that choice, not a horny selfish dog in heat.
2006-11-15 00:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋