help her or not?

Question

a very close friend of mine needs a help from me. she and her bf wants to attend the marriage of her bf's friend at chennai.we are from hyderabad. so she wants me to lie to her parents saying that am taking her along with me to my cousins marriage for a week.her parents trust me a lot.but her boy friend is also trustworthy guy. ..am in a dilema...unable to say "NO" to her. i can take risk on my life but not on my friends life...wat do i do?plz help

i told her that once but shez going on insisting me..

thankx to all are of u who are responding to my question

thankx to all , who are responding to my questions

Answer 1

IT IS BIG DECISION GENERALLY IN PAST LOTS WOMEN HELP IN SUCH WAY THEIR FRIENDS. BUT YOU MUST SEE THAT IF FACTS COME THE KNOWLEDGE OF YOUR FRIEND'S PARENTS AND THEY REPORTED IT TO YOUR PARENTS WHAT WILL BE YOUR POSITION IN YOUR HOUSE WHETHER YOUR PARENTS APPRECIATE YOUR DECISION.

Answer 2

Well it seems as if your friendship is not as strong as u thing it is. What are you scared of? Be truthful to yourself, lying for your friend makes sense as long it is justified. Do the parents of your best friend not know about her bf? Then why are they scared to tell the truth. If they do not know, then it's time they admitted. If they know then I see no harm i them visiting Channai together. If her parents will not allow, then you might as well say that your best friend's bf's friend is actually your friend as it is your friends' marriage (or some relative and you cannot say no). Then introduce this boy as your close friend or something. Again you must decide are you going too?? I guess not. But if you are going to lie, then you must see through this guy, is he REALLY meaning what he says? I understand it's a dillemma, and you perhaps feel that the best solution is by saying 'NO'. But take some time, weigh the pros and cons and ask yourself how much you would have trusted this guy, if you were your best friend. If you see no reason to not lie, well go ahead lie. A little lie never killed anyone.

Answer 3

U should not tell a lie to her parents. U r saying that her bf is a trustworthy guy then he should understand her gf's problem also. He should not look on his side only. I think that u should talk to her bf if u can nd make him understand that if it is for one day nd nearby then it can be possible as then u dont need to say anything to her parents but touchwood if by d chance they face any accident on the way then how u will face her parents who trust u alot.

Answer 4

My answer is straightaway No.

Its a dicy situation. On one hand you are putting your friendship at stake, on the other your family's prestige. If somethin goes bad in this whole conspiracy...u r goin to be the person who will loose the max. If your friend and her bf wanna enjoy, tell them to find some unique bahana, and not this filmy style bahana.
Moreover its better to convince ur friend abt the facts, and devise some good plan together, because as usual pyar mein sab andhe hote hain.You are the person with vision, save evrybudys a**, and get out tactfully

Answer 5

A very close friend would not put you in that position. Don't lie for her. You answered yourself when you said you wouldn't take a chance on your friends' life. Besides, lies always come out in the light sooner or later.

Answer 6

Well its really hard to say no to a freind but it depends on the kind of the situation, if you think it is to much for you then ask her if you can help her in other way except lying to her parents,if she gets mad I guess she doesnt deserve to be your freind.Dont tolerate her because once bad happens to her you are the one who will going to blame,and you will lose the trust of her parents wich is very imporatnt.

Answer 7

Don't lie for her she should not ask you to do such a thing. Tell her parents the truth. If she does not want to be your friend except to use you then she is not much of a friend.

Answer 8

Its good safely tell that U R parents the TRUTH. Truth once tell need not to be remembered later but the False IF U tell once then IT has to be remembered or IT has to be changed from situation to situation Be carefull and tell the truth.

Answer 9

dear frind ,
u r the 1st one to urself,
if there is no problen to u, then its fine otherwise u shouldnt be,
cuz we all r hearing in the news these days that cuz of friends so many people get in great trouble
so be honest to urself

Answer 10

If you are indeed friends, then you should be able to be honest with each other. Why don't you tell her what you said here? It's honest and makes sense.