So I never had to say that mom my whole life. Then I work with her everyday and we're bumping heads. Shes becoming a problem in my relationship. How can I tell her to bud out without hurting her feelings?
2006-11-14 23:11:19 · 13 answers · asked by 2sweet2b4got10 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just tell her exactly like you did here. I think most women would understand. They'd be honoured if you called them "mom" -- and I think that applies to m-inlaws, and stepmoms, but don't expect it, and understand it if you cannot. I cannot call my inlaws mom & dad -- and both my parents died young -- they're fine with it -- maybe disappointed deep inside -- but they understand as likewise, they felt the same about their inlaws...and so it goes.
2006-11-14 23:16:31 · answer #1 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's not that easy to "just tell her" like some of the other answers here. My mom died 7 years ago (I was 18) and I have been married 6 years - I still do not call my mother-in-law mom or even by her first name. I just don't know what to call her because I don't feel comfortable calling her either. So, I avoid it.
I let it go too far I guess... If you do feel comfortable telling her you'd prefer calling her something else, than do it, she WILL understand. Otherwise you'll end up like me :(
2006-11-18 10:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by Cranberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what, remember SHE'S A WOMAN. She has the ability to empathize. And use your ability to muster up the teary eyes. The first part of you question is pretty self explanatory, pretty much say it like you asked it to us. Second, you may have had to learn to be overly independent because you HAD too. Maybe not. What used to seem like "butting into my business" years ago, would now be welcomed advice and appreciative help. BUT, here's the advice you need to heed to most. You are in a relationship with HIM. HE needs to be man enough to stand by YOUR side, HE needs to talk with his mother about butting in, after all, she's doing it because he's HER SON, not because, YOUR HIS GIRLFRIEND. Understand what I mean?
2006-11-14 23:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by soo funny girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely... i helped mom a lil greater with breakfast immediately ! then... we had dinner out on the eve of mom's day ( the day past to this ) !! confident i comprehend it shud have been immediately :) nthing else as such.. in effortless terms a heat beautiful holiday with maa :)
2016-10-15 13:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy. Don't call her mom. I don't call my partners mom, mom and never will as she's a moody woman. Just tell her the truth.
2006-11-14 23:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by friendly face 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just keep callingand referring to her by her first name- make sure not to let the mom word slip -i have a step dad that i called dad twice and it was just awkward... so now i cal lhimn chuck
2006-11-14 23:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by spointless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her what you told us. You don't feel comfortable calling her mom.
2006-11-14 23:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If calling her mom makes it easier to settle, no harm in doing so. Mother's death is a lame excuse.
2006-11-14 23:17:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
take her in to a private setting and talk to her there. it wont be good if you hold all of this in and then blow up. so just be calm and compassionate, and talk to her
2006-11-14 23:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, just tell her
2006-11-14 23:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋