do you think maybe i may be going through the change?
2006-11-14 22:36:40 · 9 answers · asked by LONNEY O 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You may be, or the early parts of it at least.
It does sound like empty nest syndrome though.
I've worked with a lot of people who have gone through what you're feeling now, and it most often seems that the best answer is to choose some hobbies, preferably ones which get you out of the house, and to read more.
It's about re-discovering yourself and your interests...
What ways would you like to imporve yourself?
How do you most enjoy spending yor time?
What sort of "message" do you most want to convey to others?
What forms of Creativity do you have talent or get pleasure from?
Think about things like that, get out more, and you'll find your way.
Blessings,
Lady Ament
2006-11-14 22:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by Apple A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not the change, just typical empty-nest feelings. I would curl up in a comfy chair, with a hot cocoa or something, and relax, then slowly go over all the things that you didn't have time to do that you wanted to do before now. Write down all the things you said "someday" about, someday I'll lose ten pounds, someday I'll take a vacation, someday I'll read that book, sometime I'll finish that crafty project I started, etc. Invest this time in yourself, after all that time of working so hard to take care of everyone else, now it's time for you. You earned it, so enjoy it, because as lost as you feel now, this won't last forever either. Go see that friend you've been meaning to, get a makeover, new haircut, whatever floats your boat, just realize that this is no time to be depressed! This is a time to celebrate life and enjoy it's bounty, you are now officially at an age where you have more freedom than you did when you were younger, and you have the brains and wisdom to know how to take advantage of it. Above all, don't feel guilty, you worked hard to get here, you should play hard to treat yourself. I'll turn 44 this month, I'm still enjoying it. Life isn't over, look at all the people who accomplished big things after 50! Meybe take a class, learn something new, go to that place down the road that you keep telling yourself "I'll have to have lunch there sometime". You'll never know until you try! Good luck!
2006-11-15 09:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by justcurious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be, you should see your doctor, that would be a medical condition, and you can get some medication to help with the process. However, you say you have spent your life taking care of others. I would assume children and they are all going on with their lives. This is normal, we must trust we did a good job and they are doing what we raised them to do. Now, is time for you to do something for yourself. If possible go to the local community college or university and take a class on something of interest to you. Or find a new hobby, something you would like to learn or have interest in. It sounds as though you are feeling some loss with the lack of what has been normal for so long. This is normal. Now it is time for you to do something for yourself, you are still young. So go for it. Good luck and God bless*
2006-11-15 07:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do things you never had time for before.Get a hobby, read all those books you missed, go back to school and take classes that interest you, volunteer somewhere. The world is full of great adventures take advantage of that. You are probably feeling the effects of empty nest syndrome more than the change.
2006-11-15 06:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by golden oldy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you've wasted your life so far...
Congratulations.... Now you have realised how finite your life is and how much of it you have denied to yourself through pandering to society's programming.
Perhaps your will strengthened enough to let you realise what has gone wrong... but it is important to realise that your life is far from over yet. Certainly you are quite a bit past your optimum, and its all degradation from here.... but you are still highly functional and quite capable of doing whatever you feel like doing... just about.
Now is the time to engage selfish thinking... and more importantly to be aware that selfishness is the natural way of life, and you have a lot to catch up on. You have the oppurtunity now to act as you wish... Put aside consequences, as they don't matter in the end. You can learn to appreciate the here and now.... any given present... for its own particular merits. Too much of your life has been taken from you and now its time to get that time back for yourself.
2006-11-15 06:43:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not likely, but when you have spent so long looking after other people, its really hard to just concentrate on yourself. Got time to yourself? Get cosy, make sure you got something to eat close by, wrap yourself up in a duvet, put the tv on or get a book, take a deep breath and relax. Think about what makes you YOU. and then do it.
2006-11-15 06:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by myfavouritelucy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom is like that. Although I can't say she has quite gotten over not needing to watch her adult kids like she was able to in their past childhoods. She has 2 Beagle dogs now and a cat that keep a good portion of her motherly attention these days. Plus we still talk a good bunch together on the phone.
2006-11-15 06:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now you take care of yourself...
first thing you do is transformation....
go to the mall nd shop till you drop..
change all your outfit and show the world that you have changed!!!!!!!!
good luck!!!!
2006-11-15 06:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by bugi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-11-15 06:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋