me and my girlfriend was together for 3 years and 9 months. we broke up 3 months ago. her dad died 2 weeks lat

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me and my girlfriend was together for 3 years and 9 months. we broke up 3 months ago. her dad died 2 weeks later. I broke up with her because she told me I didnt matter. I didnt know she meant I didnt matter when shes trying to spend time with her parents. shes 19 years old, Im 23 years old. through out the relationship it was hard for us to see each other because her parents were so strict that we had to sneak to see each other and only was able to talk on the phone 2 days a week. so the anger we got from that would be thrown at each other. but once we realized it we became a better relationship. she says we will never get back together because she felt I wasnt there for her in that stressful time of her dad. I've always been there for her through everything. im her first everything, boyfriend, virginity you name it except for a crush before me. she has a grudge against me, possibly dont like me as a person. my friends say she will come back but i dont know. do you think she

Answer 1

Let her go. She feels that you weren't there when her dad died. If you had called her immediately after hearing and been there for her to cry on your shoulder you would have been in a better place and she would not feel that you had abandoned her.

Answer 2

I know this must be very hard for you I was with my first from the time I was 16-25 and when we split I felt like I would never be able to get over it and move on. I had it in my head that he was the only one for me and that I was doomed with out him.
I am 33 now and have to tell you the way that I look back on that now is that time heals all wounds and things happen for a reason. I moved on with my life and ended up finding the man who is my husband today. He is my puzzle piece. If you had asked me that when I was going through the similar situation as you....I would have thought this would have never happend.
I think you just need to take it one day at a time and stay open to all opportunity's that may come your way.
She may just need some time so if I was you I would maybe just tell her look we have shared alot together and I wanted to let you know that if you need a friend or someone to talk to I'm here for you and leave it at that. Don't call her or chase her after you tell her that as it may anger her or make her resent you more.
Hope this helps I will be curious to hear how it all turns out if you wouldn't mind giving me an update.

Answer 3

umm trickey one, if you love her u would have stuck by her through alot, i no your upset being you are not together anymore but he has just lost her dad and that is so sad i dont no if i could cope make sure she nos that you are there for her and are not going anywhere. to be honest she probably hasnt thought about the two are u as she has had more important things on her mind e.g her dad. your treading on thin ice be very careful
good luck

Answer 4

They say if you love something, let it go. And, if it's truely your's it will come back to you.So, let go and let GOD!BTW, what were you doing at 20 with 16yr old?Your not a pedophile are you?


Hope this doesn't sound too mean!

Answer 5

I would honestly forget her.

if you were there for her and she cant see that and doesn't care about you anymore she must be a dumb *****.

Find another girl =]

<3

Answer 6

damn thats gotta hit home and hurt i can only hope yas work it out and shes okay in the end