If a girl had her head on her shoulders, a boyfriend and family that would not leave her side and in full time work to support herself and the child. Do you still think that's immature to keep a baby?
2006-11-14 21:58:23 · 57 answers · asked by Mel 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Under those circumstances, I would say if the young woman wants to keep the baby, then she should.
She needs to think very carefully about the working full-time though - who is going to raise the child?
It is not that many years ago that a 16 year-old would be married already, so biologically there is not a problem, however our society has changed. How old is the father is also a factor here.
The mother's chances of completing college are somewhat slim, which is not a good thing. Every woman needs an education to take care of herself.
2006-11-14 22:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by Gillian 4 · 5⤊ 4⤋
Hell No!!
it depends on the circumstances even then. if the girl was a bit on the small side (still growing) then there's more chance that the baby could risk the would be mother's life or give her hip & stomach problems. Giving birth is a dangerous thing anyway so they'd need a good doctor to minimise the risks and point them in the right direction through all the pregnancy stages.
But if you take all of history into account, more people have been having babies around their teenage years than they've had babies at any other age. This thing about having kids when you're older has been the norm for a very short time if you look at it historically, so my point is that if they're a good size, eat healthy and have alot of love and support having a baby is part of what the body is meant for and it will be hard but there are benefits.
For example there's more chance that they'll have support when hard times come and your baby's not a child anymore, they'll grow older together and there's a better change that they'll see their grand kids and have more of a say in their lives if things go well.
there's nothing wrong with getting help from yor parents, they should be happy that they get to see their grand kids, yes there are costs to the mother for those benefits but with a girl that 'has her head on her shoulders' there's A LOT that can be done education wise and otherwise that can make that family very health and happy and progressive!
good question!
2006-11-15 02:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I fell pregnant at 16........I had the baby when I was 17.
Everyone is different, but I don't care how old someone is, or how ready they think they are, you can never be fully prepared for a baby!! Some will take to being a parent, like a duck to water, some may take some time to adjust, and there are those who never quite make it.
I knew I would put my heart and soul into being a Mummy, and I was lucky that I did in fact take to it like a duck to water, even at only 17 years of age. My husband and I went on to have 2 more, and although he turned out to be a really crappy Daddy,(we are divorced now) and left 3 weeks before our 3rd was born, I know that I have been a good Mother to all 3.
Only you know in your heart if you are prepared to take on this challenge. You may make a better Mummy than some women who are older, you never know!!xxx
2006-11-18 11:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by stiflersmom29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your alternative to keeping the baby is abortion, I say keep it. Why not consider adoption? A baby should have a married mother and father, who are adults. You say you have a full time job, but what about school? Who will care for the baby while you are working? I don't care whether you have your head on your shoulders, you are nowhere near mature at 16. True maturity would be doing what's best for the child.
2006-11-15 04:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to all those dogmatic, judgemental loons out there, you are not perfect, you've all made mistakes in your lives and you've all done things that you may have regretted. It disgusts me how people look down at others when they haven't been in that situation.
She may not be "wise" but she may be down to earth and ready to face facts. She's pregnant, she has to make her decision and make the best of it.
If she goes ahead with having the child, she will get a dependant, smelly, messy, screaming little creature that may well make her life a misery, but she will also have a child that will love her unconditionally, her own flesh and blood, something she created, a miracle of life that can also bring much joy.
If she aborts the child, she can go to college, she can continue with her drinking/smoking/sex, she can go off the rails. She can also feel haunted by the guilt of killing the little one inside her, or the trauma of putting everything but children off and waiting until she's far too old and not being able to have kids.
Pros and cons for both decisions.
I hope she's happy with the decision she does make. Life is only what you make of it.
2006-11-17 00:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, not at all. I think it is a personal choice and not down to maturity there. What's mature is you have weighed up what you can offer the baby - security, love , stability etc. if your family are at your side and your boyfriend too and you are happy to keep it, then do. Not immature at all. Best of luck with it all. A baby is new life and joy even if it is unplanned.
2006-11-17 12:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by cherub 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that is something only she can decide.. I got pregnant at 16 had a big family around me to help the dad never stuck around now my daughter is 16 and out of control.. she was an angel until she hit 16 then she knew the law was on her side and that social services would not intervene and she went hell bent into self destruct mode nad do you know what i've had to go through so many emotions and do some major sole searching i've blamed myself i've blamed her i've blamed my family her dad her friends the government i've even blamed religion..my girl gave me 16 of the best years of my life now i feel nothing but resentment towards her because she abandon me and chose to live with a family who are the scum of the earth as soon as she was 16 just because i wanted the very best for her she had a ten thirty curfew which she just thought was pathetic and i didn't approve of her smoking because as a smoker and life experience of it i didn't want her to go down that road go on call me a hippocrite and yes it's highly addictive and don't you think i've tried quitting everyone makes mistakes in life and bad choices it's how you handle them and deal with them that makes you the person that you are meant to be..In the space of four weeks my whole life as i've known it has come crashing down around me i've lost my daughter my home my family.. There's one thing i havn't lost though and thats my dignity i can still hold my head high my life might have quit on me but i'm not going to quit on life i'm just going to fight to make it better hell i'm only 33 i'm not even half way there i've got lots more years ahead of me and lots more choices and challenges along the way
2006-11-16 00:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Evan with all that on your side parenthood is a huge huge responsibility i am 36 and sometimes it is still hard i couldn't imagine being pregnant at 16 and as responsible as she sounds she still wasn't responsible enough to use protection so i dint know i think we need to stress that teens will have sex but should use protection id get an abortion or give the baby up and than make sure the next time you got pregnant it was on purpose if you do keep the baby take parenting classes and stay in school so you can give this kid a bright future. please no fanatical pro life messages on my e mail berating me for my opinion
2006-11-15 02:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by auntie s 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
if a girl had her head on her shoulders.would have not fallen pregnant.however sometimes these things happen.boyfriend not leave her side?how old is he?how long have you been together?family not leave her side. your family or his or both?for now.full time job at 16. guess its not great pay. you need to get a good education to get a better job to support your child if you keep it. the big question is are these people really going to be there futher down the line?
2006-11-14 22:49:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
A girl doesn't just fell pregnant. It is immature to conceive a child without planning for a family to go with it. However: Some will tell you this is not yet a person, but if you don't keep it, the child this is to be will never exist. In the future no more pregnant unless prepared for motherhood. Blessings on you and your child.
2006-11-14 22:05:29 · answer #10 · answered by doktordbel 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋