i cant believe a word e says anymore e as ad an affair once before wot shall i do
2006-11-14 21:27:58 · 26 answers · asked by purdy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
first get a new keyboard... one with an "H" button that works, then you need to dump him and find a new fish in the ocean. In the long run you will be happier.
2006-11-14 21:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by thepoet01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your relationship in the beginning and now. It depends on what the two of you are doing to regain love and trust now. Everybody makes mistakes; was it a mistake or a symptom of a bad relationship? Do you both love each other and show that love to each other in a way each of you can understand? If you're speaking a different 'love language' one or other of you might not be receiving the message.
It takes two to make a relationship work. Especially a damaged one. If you're both showing your commitment to repairing the relationship it can work. If e tries and is committed, e can regain your trust over time.
If you look carefully and honestly at both of your behaviour before the affair you might also uncover what went wrong that allowed this to happen. Maybe e can't commit in relationships, maybe e is a dog, maybe e always thinks the grass is greener on the other side and cant settle down, maybe e made a one-off mistake which e regrets, or maybe one or both of you had your head in the sand throughout your relationship. People can be complacent and oblivious to what is going on around them when they get too comfortable.
E had an itch which e thought you couldnt or wouldnt scratch, so e went elsewhere to try and satisfy that need. Maybe e learnt a lesson or maybe e still cant believe e can get satisfaction from you. That could be e's problem with relationships or e could be right.
Finally learn to trust, once e shows committment over a period of time. I do not believe that bad things must happen again if the circumstances change that caused them to happen in the first place.
2006-11-15 06:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by cognoscible 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All relationships need trust and he has broken that by having the 1st affair. a lot of people I know would have been out of the door then.
Its going to take time before you'll be able to trust him again and its something you'll both need to work at. But if this isn't happening, I agree and think you should end it and try to move on with your life, because you're not happy.
2006-11-15 05:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by Vix 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl! I feel for you, My ex even had a lovechild with his affair. I can only say that it is hard at first, if you decide to stay with him it is truly because I hope he is going to marriage counseling with you, I never got help, but I stay and was absolutely miserable,the pain from the rejection you feel, not to mention the devastation of just knowing the man, that you gave your heart and soul to, is the same man that shared his sexual intimacy with another woman. I could never trust him again, I could never love him like I once did and I could never forgive much less forget. 2 years later leaving was the best thing I ever could of done for myself.
2006-11-15 05:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by txflowerblossom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi, if you cant trust him and he cant prove himself then i think you should finish with him, what sort of life would you have together every time he left your sight or you saw him talking to a female you would be feeling betrayed and thinking he is having an affair....if you do find someone else and i hope they treat you with more respect then you will have to be careful not to drive him away with your insecurities, remember not all guys are pond scum who think they can have their cake and eat it...good luck i hope you throw this loser to the kerb and find a nice decent guy who treats you like a princess and most of all makes you feel secure and loved and happy
2006-11-15 07:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you, I was in a similar situation myself 5years ago, try to talk to him, if you are still in love you may be able to work things out for the better, however if he wont listen/talk try a trial separation, show him what he's missing, if after all that, he doesn't seem to have improved, then i would suggest you move out, or kick him out, and start again, life's to short to be unhappy, Good luck, i hope things work out the way you want them too.
2006-11-15 05:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by winnie the pooh 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
depends if it was a long standing affair, a one nighter or if you knew the girl he had an affair with
does he still see her?
a tough one but deep down i think you already know whether you want it to work out or not.
and i think its a no brainer
good luck
2006-11-17 06:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is gone from the relationship and that means much. Talk over it with a view to salvaging the relationship., otherwise, just let go!
2006-11-15 06:43:13 · answer #8 · answered by Akimbo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with you not believing a word she says is a very big problem coz all relationshipes i feel are built on trust with out trust i don't thinks any relationship can work out.So you guys have to try by you trying to build trust in her once again and she trying her best to be truthful to you, but if you guys are not ready to try that than forget it
2006-11-15 05:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by shiva 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Damaged beyond recussitation.
2006-11-15 05:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋