Ok, my best guy friend is gay. I've liked him since middle school, back when he dated a few girls & supposedly got oral from a girl (he denies it). The thing is im slowly falling for him. I've told him i liked him before, & he said he was gay & that he was sorry. Now I know it sounds crazy but I feel as if though he has feelings for me in some way. I've seen alot of signs that would agree. He always stares at me when im not looking, & i stare back when I see this. Sometimes we just stare at each other, not moving or speaking. I also step into his personal space sometimes & get very close & he doesn't say anything nor move back. I see him look at my lips alot as well, kind of like when you want to kiss someone. Me and him have a good friendship & i want nothing more to be with him. I just need some advice on what to do. Any help would be more helpfull than i can explain. Thanks!!
2006-11-14 20:40:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like an episode of Will and Grace. Maybe your friend is bi-sexual. Regardless, you will never be sure if he closes his eyes and fantasizes about Kevin Cosner when you get together. I would say be his friend forever but don't get your hopes up
2006-11-14 21:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by Julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it looks like you have yourself in some sort of dillema.
you told him you liked him already, and he said he's gay. But then you say that there are a lot of signs (which i definitely agree are pure flirty),so it's getting all mixed up.Maybe you should ask him, what does he like you as? does he simply like you as a friend, or does he like you more than that? is he attracted to a guy at the moment? maybe he just said he was gay because at that time he didn't really like you and he was trying to avoid you..but now, he's slowly falling for you,like you're slowly falling for him. You guys have been friends for a long time so i'm guessing the attraction would be mutual.
at any rate, GOODLUCK
**XOXOmichelle
2006-11-14 21:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay people may experiment but in the end, they can not hide their gay feelings and it will hurt you.
Stop wasting your time and jerking yourself around emotionally. Does it feel good to have a crush?
You HAVE to move on, otherwise you'll ruin your friendship with him. Grow up and start looking for guys who are more compatible from the beginning.
2006-11-14 21:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by ERNIE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok he is gay and you have to respect that. he knows how he is feeling not you.i have heaps of gay friends and i would love nothing better than to marry one of them. they are in touch with their feminine side. we all experiment at school and alot of gay men have been with women in the past. dont ask him to deny who he is. if you cross the line between friendship you may loose him as a friend. you can still love him but not be his partner. good luck
2006-11-14 20:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by sharon w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, if he is gay then your barking up the wrong tree. Just stay good friends. Don't do what you know will turn out to be wrong for the both of you. It might weird out your friendship and you don't want to loose him because of it.
2006-11-14 20:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sweetheart!
Now I am going to let you what you want to know.
It had better that you have only friendship with him so don't ignore him and meet him daily. And offer him a yellow rose. And slowly and gradually both of you will be fall in love.
Hope it would your help.
Yours,
Deepak L.
2006-11-14 21:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by prem k 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are soooo setting yourself up for disappointment. You need to look at this logically...he loves you...like a sister! He may think your beautiful..but he's not attracted to you ...he likes boys just exactly the same way that you like him!
Please don't do this to yourself...You know you can't change him!!
2006-11-14 20:53:42 · answer #7 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GAY IS GAY AND NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU WANT TO CHANGE THAT YOU JUST CAN'T....BE HIS FRIEND AND LOVE HIM AND ENJOY THE FRIENDSHIP...YOU WILL BE AMAZED AT HOW WONDERFUL THAT CAN BE...I KNOW THIS FROM EXPERIENCE...MY 2 BEST FRIENDS IN THE WORLD ARE GAY
2006-11-14 21:20:50 · answer #8 · answered by honestypleeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to fall for gay guys. They're sensitive and understand us. It's not unusual but don't think you can change him. Maybe he's bi but even then can you deal w/ a guy who is also w/ men?
2006-11-14 20:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by uknowme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt push it- if he says that he is gay then although it may suck to hear that then let him go with it. i would say to just kiss him but that may ruin ur friendship so unless ur willing to lose him all together i dont think that i would go through with it but if u are willing to lose him then i would say what the hell give it a shot and kiss him!
2006-11-14 20:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by mmackie08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋