can anyone tell me any real statistics or actually know of any married women who had a baby while cheating on her husband and the baby is not the husbands but from the man she cheated on him with? and not tell the real husband and let him think the baby is actually his?
2006-11-14 20:25:04 · 7 answers · asked by amy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Please don't try to pass this child off as your husbands. Can you imagine how devastated he would be if he finds out after they have bonded? It's very wrong & I don't know anyone who could bring themselves to do such a thing. You are going to have to bite the bullet & own up. It's going to be difficult for you & you are very likely to lose your husband but you have to do the right thing.
2006-11-14 21:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by stumpymosha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not you tell your husband is up to you but can you live with this secret for years to come? You sound frantic right now. So the baby is born, hubby is none the wiser. Do you think that's it? Your secret will never go away. You will always be terrified that somehow your husband will find out. What about the childs father. Does he know you're having his baby? He has a legal right to know. You had sex with another man because A): You love him more than your husband and want to be with him or B): you made a mistake that you now regret. If it's A, leave your husband and be with your lover. If it's B, tell your husband you made a mistake and beg him to keep you. If he won't accept another mans baby you can put it up for adoption. We are all human and we all make mistakes. But you have a choice to make so make it! Or you'll go insane and that won't help anything. Good Luck.
2006-11-14 20:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by vanman2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if this like for real, oh, boy....
I do not know of any statistics except for TV programs where someone came out with it, and told like on Jerry Springer and they all get into a fight, but that is basically what you are going to have on your hands. The thing about it, is you have some options. You can have the baby and live with the lie, and when the baby gets bigger and your husband looks at him, and he has no resemblance to him, he is going to smell a rat. Then you can just be truthful and tell him, and your marriage is probably going to be over. Then you can live with the lie and never tell anyone, except on your deathbed, and take your lumps then. You have to take responsibility for your sins, lady. You can have the baby and keep it, or put it up for adoption. What about the real father, does he want to take any responsibility or is he in the same boat? I think you both are going to have to take the responsiblity, if you cheated, well, this is the result. If you do the crime, you have to do the time, meaning, his marriage is over and so is yours, and the child needs to know the real father, sorry. It will all come up sooner or later, so you might as well get out in the open. The child deserves to know, and it is not fair to dump this on your husband and never tell him and think this child is his. Lying never pays, but just digs you a bigger hole. Cheating doesn't either, and you should have known better to do it without protection, duh. Fess up, and do right, or you will pay big time later.
2006-11-14 20:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I"m not going to lecture or harass but I do believe you need to come clean for the sake of the child. What happens if later on in life there is a medical problem and the doc needs info. Not knowing the true father could end in a problematic situation.
Good Luck with your decision.
2006-11-14 20:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, I have a friend in this situation. To this day we still don't know who her daddy is (husband or guy she slept with during a seperation). The little girl looks just like her mother, so its not like you can tell by looking. I kept my mouth shut cause I'm her friend and not his. They've had issues for years, so I didn't want to make it worse. They are now going through divorce. Revealing that information wouldn't help anything. And there is the possibility that the kid is his. As cruely as he's treated her, I feel no obligation to tell.
2006-11-14 20:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if the man you messed with is of a different race than your husband, you better decide real quick what your exit plan is...
2006-11-14 20:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by Mintee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you're white, and the kid comes out with an "afro", you're gonna have a lot of splaining to do Lucy !
2006-11-14 20:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋