And even though most of the guys that I meet accepts me for who I am and does really nice things for me even if I've treated them mean. Most of these men are just a friend not boyfriend. How can I stop letting myself get so irritated? Please help me! I woud like to accept people for who they are and be more tolerant and kind towards others.
2006-11-14 19:02:26 · 5 answers · asked by ghettofessional 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It depends on what's going on. If it's something about YOU that you're just really irritable, there's a lot of things that could be. You might consider seeing a counselor. (Or getting more sleep, easing off of stress, or any number of other things). I think it's worth noting though that some personalitiies just don't mix. I know a lot of really SUPER nice people who have a LOT of energy. I find them a bit...grating. I'm pleasant with them, but I don't really hang out with them much, and it's not because they're bad people, but because I just don't enjoy their company through no fault of their own.
2006-11-16 00:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe... they're irritating. Don't be too hard on yourself.
And maybe... you're impatient. You've got high standards for yourself and for others... maybe no one measures up. Take a breath, and try and concentrate on what you like about the guy. Try and empathise, if they're irritating you, try and work out why they're acting the way they're acting. Chances are they may be trying to please you... and that's kind of nice, isn't it?
And... sometime you'll meet someone who snarks right back at you and you'll go woohoo. In the mean time, just give yourself a break and all those other people a break as well.
2006-11-14 20:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by Greta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that either they're straight, they're not interested, or they don't have sufficient experience to make the next move. If they're straight, there's really nothing you can do. You can change if they're not interested, but only if you're desperate and really want to. I don't recommend it. Otherwise, try to make the first move.
2006-11-14 19:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by xdannifenx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
generally people dislike most in other people what they see and dislike in themselves...is that what's going on here?
2006-11-14 23:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get anger management training.
2006-11-14 19:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋