pregnancy question.. experienced mommy's!?

Question

Am I being selfish.. I really just want this baby out!! I am 38 weeks and swollen horribly.. my weight has affected my feet makin it almost impossible to walk .. is this normal to be this miserable and what or should I do something to bring on labor??

Answer 1

You're not selfish ... your just tired and worn-out. Although it may be hard for you to believe right now, you'll miss the little kicks etc... and all that's special when you're pregnant ... and sometimes, when you're up allllllll night, with the baby crying ... you'll wish you were still prego again.

I know where you're coming from ... I gave birth to a son, and one month later ... I was pregnant again. So, realistically ... I was pregnant for almost two years straight (aren't elephants prego for two years? lol) I tell you ... I FELT like an elephant!!

Don't bring on labor ... although they say the average pregnancy is 40 weeks gestation, some babies aren't ready to be born until 42 weeks gestation. This is why most doctors won't induce labor until you're at least two weeks over-due. Be patient hun ... I wish you all the best ... congratulations!!

Answer 2

LOL ... no worries, you're not different than almost every other mother.

I've had 5 .... about 35 weeks into every pregnancy I'd start to go insane and just pray the little bugger would make an appearance. At that point, you're sick and tired of being huge, off balance, struggling to walk, sit up, sit back, lay down, move .. you get the idea.

There are some perfectly safe things you can do that may help to speed up your delivery. On the other hand, you may have a stubborn one that has no intention of making it's appearance until it's damn good and ready.

More physical exercise can bring about labor, but don't overdo it! Go for an extra walk during the day, but no jogging, etc. Also, sex .... seriously. Intercourse can help bring about labor quite easily.

I also made a habit of finding a friend with the worst vehicle who's shocks were shot and forcing him to drive me around, hoping the bumpy ride would convince the baby to make it's appearance sooner than expected. No dice each time, lol.

Good luck to you :)

Answer 3

Congratulations on your pregnancy, It is very normal to feel like this at this stage of your pregnancy and I can say 98% of women feel this way.

This is the time you need to be taking it easy, there isn't a lot you can do to induce labour as it is souly when the baby is ready. But within saying that there are things you can do to try and encourage labour, for example,
sex softens the cervix making it easier to dilate, walking and squats can help to push the baby onto the cervix making the baby more then likely ready to begin labour. Warm bath no longer then 20 mins with a bit of lavender could help, the longer your in the bath the less likely thing will happen, as the warm bath over 20 mins can slow early labour down. Moisterise your stomach with oils can bring labour on.

I don't recommend castor oil as it can do more damage then good, some women think it works but most of the time it will not just making you sick and putting your baby at risk.

I recommend sex and squats as your most likely to help induse labour as they are the most natural. After your water has broken do not have sex.

As your feet are swelling make sure you tell your doctor to keep an eye on it to make sure everything is running smoothly, this is the most uncomfortable stage of pregnancy but the longer you go the healthier your baby will be so don't rush bub even though your very ready.

There is a chance your dates could be wrong and you go 2 weeks over so try not to think about getting labour to come and relax, pamper yourself and watch your fav movie, I found as soon as I stoped thinking about labour starting and thinking I'd be pregnant forever it all happened. Because you are so anxius it could be slowing the process down, the more you relax the easier it will come. Make you feel good, get a facial and your hair done, maybe even your nails and just be a real girly girl it will make you feel so much better and take your mind off getting the baby out.

Good luck and best wishes, I hope the labour and birth come soon but try to relax until then.

Answer 4

No you feel the same way that most expecting mothers feel at that stage of their pregnancy. The swollen feet, the breathlessness, tiredness, and just plain fed up. No its normal, have alot of soothing baths with your feet up and have someone pamper you while your feeling down. Try not to count down the days even though it is hard as it will make the time seem to drag a little longer. Don't expect your baby will always come on the due date my first was 9 days over due. Good luck and hope all goes well for you.

Answer 5

I completely understand!!! I was expecting twins and felt the same way at 37 weeks, so I induced labor. Here's how I did it...

Sperm contains the same hormone that induces labor, so I seduced my husband. I also went for a very long walk. Within 48 hours, my labor began.

I would try to stick it out as long as possible and definitely check with your doctor. I highly recommend going about it naturally as having the doctor induce it can cause an intense labor. If you do go that route, ask that the drip be at a reasonable rate so your contractions are manageable.

Good luck!

Answer 6

I know it's hard at the end of pregnancy, but actually at least your baby isn't screaming at random intervals through the night and needing clean nappies and feeding. I am a mother of three, and first time I was anxious to meet the child.

The next two preganncies, I just wanted them to stay in as long as possible, to delay that huge responsibility just a short while longer.

Hang in there- your baby will come just as soon as he or she is ready. You don't him or her to be born before they're ready- there might be problems with feeding.

Take it really easy for the next few weeks. I hope youre on maternity leave- if not, I hope you're in a job where you can put those swollen feet up as much as possible. If you're feeling blue, schedule some hair and beauty appointments and general "me time" in the next week to ten days. That's one thing you won't get time for for another few months...

Answer 7

You are not being selfish, don't worry. It does feel horrible the last few weeks. You've not got long now, try to be patient and see it as a time to get ready for the most wonderful date in your life. And believe me, there is nothing that brings it on before it's ready! No bumpy roads, curries, pineapple or anything! When you are ready though, sex (Sperm) will help!

Answer 8

oh sweetie I've been there....several times. your almost there!!! this is perfectly normal to feel this way....in fact i don't know mother on earth that didn't feel like this towards the end.
walking might help * although it does hurt to walk*, sex might kick start labor, they say eating spicy foods...but with my daughter i ate salsa and chips like candy through the whole pregnancy and nothing!
you might want to talk to your doc about being uncomfortable and see what he/she thinks. at 38 weeks your about ready....and if your cervix has not softened or changed at ALL...i would ask about having a bit of "help". there is a something that they put on the cervix that stimulates it to soften and thin out....that can help induce labor.
i had that done with my first cause he was VERY high and would NOT drop, and my cervix was like a brick wall! so they put that stuff on my cervix and by the second day...WHAM! he dropped really hard into my pelvis *poor thing* but he finally got into position and my cervix started to thin out.

remember that YOU are the mom here, and this is YOUR pregnancy...you have every right to question the docs about what treatment you'd like for your birth plan.
*hugs* your almost there!

Answer 9

Lord, do i remember feeling the same way. It was just over 3 weeks ago. I do not think that you are being selfish.I would complain, and then sometimes feel bad about it because other people can't have kids. My boyfriend told me to look at it as a miracle. Anyway i was 38 weeks when i had my emergency csection. I know that you probably don't want to here this, but it will be over soon.

Answer 10

Your baby will come when due. If your health is truly being affected, please talk with your physician/midwife, etc. It may be possible to induce you. Main thing here is, you're at the end and you want the best for your new baby, including fully-developed lungs. Hold on just a couple weeks longer and it will be over and you'll have a precious new one to hold and love. Take care and bright blessings to you both!