Am I still in love with him?

Question

He was my college sweetheart, actually my first true love. It's been more than ten years since we broke up and we had no communication at all since the last 9 years. Am just wondering why I often dreamt of him and even his family members. I admit, I sometimes think of him, but what matters most is that we have our own family already. I miss his mom & dad, his brothers & sisters & nephews & nieces. I felt like I really belong, it's just that destiny made him fell in love with a young lady who bore his first child. I had no way of communicating with him but I really want to know how's life is going on, just for old time sake.

Right now I am happily married and a mother of three children though I cant help but think of him everytime I dreamt of him.

Answer 1

You are not alone. It's been over 10 years since my first love and I parted ways. Like you, we had no communication at all for 10 years. Yet, I still dream of her every now and then. The dreams are never sexual or anything like that. We are always just together, a couple, doing whatever.

Once again, like you, I wanted to communicate with her. Not to hook up or anything, just to see how she was and to tell her how much she meant to me. Plus, I have always wondered if I meant as much to her as she meant to me.

I see that there are many people here quick to rush judgement, discount your feelings, jump to the conclusion that you are thinking about cheating on your husband, etc. It's not like that at all, is it? It's totally different, huh? Trust me, I understand! However, many people don't. Thus, it's hard to find anyone to discuss this with, and, furthermore, you get the misguided answers that are posted here.

I could go on and on, but I will spare you for now.

Holla!

Answer 2

it's hard to get over someone, i know

but you know how you romanticize things in the past???? things always seem different than they were, kind of like how when you were little, everything looked big, then you grow up and see something and realize it wasn't big after all. at least in my life, i've found that breakups happen for a reason. he chose to be with someone else and that was his choice. sure, maybe you'll get back together, but don't obsess over it. it's also likely you'd meet him again and just want to be good friends.

Answer 3

because you think of the good times you had with this person and the impact he had on you! that is good to dream and to have your own la la land but reality is that you both moved on and you are married and have a family and so does he probably! somewhere deep in your heart you still care about him because he was your first love which is hard to get over!

Answer 4

First loves are hard to forget. Keep him in a special place in your heart, and only allow yourself to 'go there' sporadically. He was in your life for a reason, and it was just for a season. Your real love is the father of your children, the provider of your houshold, and the king of your kingdom. Lavish some of that lingering love unto the man that was man enough to love you for life. He's earned it.

Answer 5

Dream of your knight in shinning armor and then roll over to see the real king in bed next to you. Be there in heart for your family. Memories are good. Just keep them there.

Answer 6

still in love with him? I doubt it. I still remember my first love and it has been more years than i care to count. Maybe there was just some unfinished business and that is why he creeps into your dreams. If you are happliy married I wouldnt dwell on it.

Answer 7

Let the matter be in your dreams if you try to convert them in to reality it may land you in problems

Answer 8

Absolutely... you still love him.
i know because it is the similar story with me.
even with exact time difference.
i make people search to find her to have a chat with her.
but still i can't find a way.
i am from Anand.
today your question had really enlighten my hope. pl. reply me

Answer 9

I think your over him but not over what happened( the breakup).

Answer 10

Yeah ur!!