im a lesbian that hasnt been with any women and im afraid to be with one any ideas to get over that fear
2006-11-14 17:39:46 · 3 answers · asked by firefight_4life 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well not knowing what you are afraid of its kinda hard to give you good advice. R u newly out? I had a similer problem when I came out because I left my husband purely because I knew I was a lesbian, not that I had been with a women. So when I did start dating, it was really scary. I felt like I wouldnt know what to do. But believe me, you do know what to do. It comes naturally because you know how to please yourself, and you know what pleases you. So if thats the problem, dont worry about it, it will be fine. If your just worried about dating a lesbian, you pretty much need to just do it and get over it, I dont know how else to tell you to get over your fear. Good luck.
2006-11-14 19:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by arielsalom33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the issue isn't really having not been with another woman. Sounds more like an intimacy issue.
If you are dating for a while and you are growing closer to her, things tend to take their own course unless you stop it.
There is nothing wrong with saying that you haven't been with a woman before and that you want your partner to guide you.
If you really are afraid, buy a book on lesbian sex so you can learn a few techniques to try.
2006-11-14 18:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know you are a lesbian, and not bi-sexual or even heterosexual?
2006-11-14 18:22:16 · answer #3 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋