Some people think that if you aren't mean to them it means that your best buddies and then you have to be meaner to them just to get rid of them. It doesn't pay to be nice...sometimes.
2006-11-14 16:39:34 · 42 answers · asked by E_Soup 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Yes, that's happened to me quite a few times. I try not to be so easily taken in anymore.
2006-11-14 17:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by salstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been saying that the whole year. Man o man can i say that over and over i can get rich off of it if i decide to pursue a lawsuit against him and the city of new york lol but i choose to continue my goals and dreams i don't wanna get side tracked. Money means nothing to me. But principal is another thing. If anything its the principal of the matter Right? i think everyone can agree. Money helps and also destroys. Anyway, I have regretted helping too many people over the last 3 yrs. I've decided that I'm going to help myself now. That is the only true way to do more for someone else, provide what they need. (not what they want)
2006-11-14 16:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very good question. I think we all feel this way at one point or another. In life, this happens. I've been so nice to people only to have it come back to haunt me.
It's so true that these people, friends, family members, will even take advantage of you.
Nice is wonderful... it demonstrates the real fact that you are a caring, loving, concerned person. Yet the people you are "nice" to fail to see this.
You don't have to be mean, so to speak...
Just hold them accountable for whatever reason you were nice to them. It's nuts when you have gone out of your way to be nice, to be helpful... only to find later.....
that you became part of "their" problem in doing so.
Pick your battles. Be smart.
Always be nice.
Just be "nice" in the right way.
Compassion needs to be tempered with reason and common sense.
2006-11-14 16:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I am by nature a kind hearted person, I put up with alot from people because of it.....and regret it in the end. I have this weird guilty conscience thing that I can't just tell someone I don't like them.
2006-11-14 16:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dated a quiet, pretty shy girl in high school whom I thought could open up into a really sweet, nurturing person. Instead, she became the freakiest, insecure stalker I've ever known! I sometimes still look out my front door to see if she's not across the street, looking into my windows.
Brrrrrr!
2006-11-14 16:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never regret being nice to someone. However, I do not like being put in a position where I have to cut ties with a person because of abusive and/or unhealthy behaviours.
2006-11-14 16:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex cheated. She did have a solid buddy inquire from me if i grew to become into open to getting returned jointly. jointly as I did love her, i would not even evaluate getting returned together with her, by way of failings she'd executed as quickly as we've been jointly, as nicely as issues she did jointly as we've been separated. We nonetheless stay in an identical small city, or maybe after 15 years, i won't be able to even see her in a save, without feeling a private experience of failure. no longer for the lack of ability of my first marriage, yet for my allowing her to stay alive. i could no longer and could't kill her, by way of fact she is the mummy of my babies.
2016-10-22 02:58:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have a family of5living in my 2room house now because i could not see kids on the street also loaned a trailer to a neighbor after there house burnt down another lives in my camp-trailer
still some think i owe them more i pay all bills
2006-11-14 16:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by purple_puma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was nice to this one co-worker.Apparently her son was in a car accident and was hurt badly.After awhile I found out she just said that to get some time off work and plus she liked the attention.I regretted that.I fell for it hook,line and sinker.
2006-11-14 16:43:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally agree! I'm way to nice if I have to I'll get a little mean to get rid of them
2006-11-14 16:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by Maria AKA one of a kind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've noticed it rarely pays back when you help people just for nothing. They start to think you are always ready to do anything for them. So I avoid offering help to people until somebody comes to me and asks. Besides, you cn be nice to someone without suspecting he or she spreads gossip about you just for fun or because of envy. Be careful with everybody except your close people - they can always be honest with you.
2006-11-14 17:02:49 · answer #11 · answered by Victory A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋