My boyfriend and I have had some arguments of late. We nearlly broke up but then after having a cry together, we decided that some time apart might do us good. He suggested the break but was agreed by both of us that is was just a break, and not a break up and that a week or so should be enough time. Also to give him more time to think about things as lately he feels a bit unsure of what he wants. He is staying with his parents who live 5 minutes drive away. He only took his work clothes and some sporting gear and toiletries. He also said that our arguments of late has affected him concentrating at work. In our arguments he says things like he's unsure if he loves me or not, but after we cool down, he says that he does love me... just gets angry when we fight.
Is it really just some time apart or leading up to a break-up ?
2006-11-14 16:29:32 · 18 answers · asked by Sweet G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It really matters on how strong you love one another. If you think this relationship can work, then it can. If you are having second thoughts about it, does it really mean that the relationship you have with him that weak that you're doubting it? All you both need is a deep conversation that can find the truths on both of your feelings. :D
2006-11-14 16:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing about taking a break is that unless you two work on your problems both separately and as a couple, nothing will have changed when you get back together. If he is having doubts and you two are arguing a lot, a week or a month apart will not resolve any of this. I think you both should seek counseling to try to work on communication skills and explore whether you are compatible.
I don't believe that he is taking a break to look for someone better. He is probably being truthful when he says that the stress is making work difficult. I, for one, would rather be alone than fighting all the time.
2006-11-15 00:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all the cases of giving space or a break means a break up, it can be found when you find a space, To determine what is wrong in the relationship, You will find out the cause and effect of something involving in your relationship, Try to understand each other to know the exact limitations of both of you...
2006-11-15 00:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by mark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust him and he says it's just a break, then take him at his word. If on the other hand he has lied to you in the past, then it very well could be a break up. GIve it some time...if it's meant to be, it will be. I have been there and it is so confusing, just have faith that everything will be what is best for you. Easier said than done. I know!
2006-11-15 00:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now, its not over. Since he did not take all of his stuff when he left, then he definitely does have plans to come back.
You just need to be positive and fair with him. He is planning on coming back, but the situation is very fragile right now and you have to be careful- do not start bringing up old stuff- you need a clean beginning and bringing up old stuff may push him away.
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2006-11-16 11:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by want2knowsoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he gets nervous or upset when you argue or disagree on something maybe there might be another way to discuss what the problem might be.
Maybe there might be another solution.
perhaps you both need a little breathing room and see how things go.
Does this happen often.
Do you know where to reach him
How long is he gone for.
I hope it works out for you both.
I hope that both of you can have a few moments to talk it over.
2006-11-15 00:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The content and the cause of the fights would give me information for a solid answer here. It sounds like he is either a. afraid of conflict b. really does need the space c. wants out of this and is using the conflicts as an excuse and d. the committment is freaking him out.
Best of luck honey. I hope things work out for you.
2006-11-15 00:34:20 · answer #7 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its leading to a break up. but a "break" is just a cover-up for a break up. if he says he's unsure if he loves you or not, then a week away from eachother is not going to be enough time to decide or give you space.
2006-11-15 00:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the one to tell you this but this is heading to a breakup. you need to do some serious damage control. DON'T SEEM NEEDY & DESPERATE. Infact become the fun part in his life. Go out with your friends and have fun and be really happy around him. Ooze confidence and be his safe place. Let him see that a fight would be impossible with you, this will calm him down and show him the girl he fell in love with.
2006-11-15 00:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually breaks are break-ups. Hmm, but the adult-honest way in which you both established this 'break' might prove otherwise. Let it pan out and see where it goes.. Honestly hope you guys can work it out. just talk:no more yelling :(
2006-11-15 00:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by Jade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋