This will be the last Christmas for my 31 year old sister(if she makes it to Christmas). She has two beautiful little girls whom she cannot even pick up to hug. I love her so much and feel so terrible for what she is going thru. Considering the situation--I dont think that material objects will be of any importance for her. I want to do something special for her and her girls.
2006-11-14 16:29:13 · 14 answers · asked by nadia s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was in a situation with a friends family who was dying. I put together a video reel - a compilation of photos, video, narration and music that meant the world to this person. A documentary narrated by them, edited together for them in the end. At the time, it was the final piece for them. To look back on their life in this video, remember and share with those in attendance. But the beauty was that this could be given to others, family and friends. So everyone had a copy of this persons life, and with it being narrated by them - it will live on. My friends family member did not have children, but imagine what this could do for your sisters kids, to have this and remember sharing this with their mother. I would consider doing this if you can. I did the work for my friend, but if you look at wedding videographers, they might be able to help you do this professionally. Since material things can not be taken with us, it is this gift that will last for the time that your sister has left, and for the rest of your family's hearts and memories forever.
2006-11-14 16:39:35 · answer #1 · answered by Vikki Nicole 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the girls somewhere special for Christmas. To see Santa at the mall or the decorations downtown or to a Christmas parade. Make it something they will remember and talk about for a long time. Take plenty of pictures to show your sister that her little ones will be looked after with loving care after she is gone.I am really sorry about you sister's situation.
2006-11-14 16:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by David C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly Steve K you are an ***. If you really meant well by that answer, you could have found a more tactful way to put it. But I suspect you're just an ***.
Anyway, how about a scrapbook / journal of family pictures and stories that you can all look at together, and then she'll know that these memories have been recorded for her children as well.
Or, if physically she is too tired to write, offer to sit with her and write things in a nice book for her children.
You'll be in my prayers.
2006-11-14 16:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by alwayslarat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could set up a weekend that they can spend together. Video tape the whole event. This could be great for her daughters to remember her later. And for her it would be a great experience. I think making her daughters happy and knowing they will be taken care of and that she'll always be remembered would make her happy and that would be the greatest gift of all. A parent doesn't worry about things like gifts, but worries about their childrens well being. Carry a camra, video camra, etc. Create a scrap book, video tape, etc. And let her watch it, see it. She would love that. I am sure. Ever see Stepmom.. you should watch that... It's good. Maybe that'll give you some ideas.
2006-11-14 17:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by t_marie_02 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get them a trip together, to a spa day. So they can spend time together. Or have the girls make a special video for her. That way too they will have it after she's gone.
Spending time with her family will be number 1 I would think..
2006-11-14 16:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by Karen K 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No one knows how much time is left and it seems your sisters will be shorter than most but you could get her a journal so she could write to her daughters, something they can keep forever and if she's too weak to write you could do the writing for her. Spend time with her and her girls and assure her that you will always be there for them and do everything you can to keep her memory alive for them.
2006-11-14 17:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is really hard, but if I were youre sister I would want to spend as much time with you as possible, what I mean by this is just be there for her and let her know how much you love her.
2006-11-14 16:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by karen v 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe get her something that she can share with her girls? Maybe a day to get their nails done or something. Go out and see a movie or go to dinner. Something where they can really connect and your sister can enjoy the time she has with her girls. SO sorry by the way, that's horrible. What kind of horrible disease takes a 31 yr old. My heart goes out to you. Good luck
2006-11-14 16:33:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
a photo session either professional or amateur to catalogue a "day in the life of..."
A video memorial where pictures can be chosen and put together in a video memorial. Spend time together chosing the photos, figuring out the timelines, etc. Celebrate her life with the family.
2006-11-14 16:40:09 · answer #9 · answered by huckleberry 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am so very sorry that your sister is so ill, but she is very fortunate to have such a loving sister to spend her last time with. maybe ask her what she would want most. her answer may surprise you and then you will know that it something that is really important to her.
2006-11-14 16:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋