We have been together for 6 years and I am now 25. He was laid off from his last job 6 mos after we started dating. He makes me laugh...smile...feel sexy....I have my own job, bought my own house and have tried to keep finances seperate until he was inedpendant(which he is fine with him...but never materializes in the idea of him being productive) ..but this living in limbo is starting to get to me.
I am 10 years younger and when I sacraficed I was unsure of what I wanted...now I am starting to know I want things that the two of us can never have....
I know his illness is legit but I can't stop wanting other things..
Am I wrong to feel this way?
Where do I go from here?
Do I go for what I think I want...or sacrafice what I think I want for what I know makes me feel good??
2006-11-14 16:26:35 · 7 answers · asked by elysialaw 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To Mr. Mumble...yah it is ticking..not pounding..but ticking..I've spent 6 years in the blink of an eye...makes me wonder how fast the next 6 will go...
2006-11-14 16:37:45 · update #1
jhmhsi...looking for others advise and perceptions is not a cop out...i am seeking the wisdom of others who may have experienced something I have not..in fact the answers so far are taking me to where I probably was already...just helping me there
...anyway...it's not about marriage..he's proposed and his parents offered to pay...I said no...and about the adoption...if I wanted to raise a child on my own I would do it on my own.....
2006-11-14 16:41:21 · update #2
LOL...Emo hope...actually he is a good house husband...I just don't let him cook....my cooking is way better.
2006-11-14 16:47:31 · update #3
You can leave him like all the women say on here, but no one can get upset when their husbands throw them on the streets when they get cancer later in life. With the answers I see on here, I hope it's only the people who come in here. I hope I'm never in his shoes.
And why marry someone anyways if they're going to leave you when you're ill(or anytime for that matter--what's the point of marriage... I don't see one with the answers on here and other similar questions). If you must be lonely, you might as well be alone.
Now, he should respect you wanting a child if that's the issue. Talk about adoption or having a baby with him and you're not wrong for having these feelings, they're natural, but you must do what's right.
2006-11-14 16:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by Nep 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Six years together and he is older and no ring. You have no obligation to stick with him. You have a right to get on with your life and start living. This is the difference between being married and shacking up. He is not making you feel good otherwise you wouldn't even be thinking about all the things you are missing. If you stay in another 6 years you will be miserable and so will he. Time to move on.
2006-11-14 16:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
... it all depends on you. You can't ask someone else to make that decision for you. That's a blatant cop-out. We're as ineffective as psychics... it's just that you don't waste money paying us to give answers. Sooo.... just remember this: if this is about marriage, the average age for marriage nowadays is 28 because people have higher educations than back then. If this is about children, look around you. The world is overpopulated enough... adopt a kid. Give someone a home instead.
2006-11-14 16:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
VERY stressful ... how are you able to stumble on Them relaxing .. Lieing Down TICK TOCK TICK TOCK on your Head isn't relaxing .. I Cant Sleep With It Its impossible .. I hate it ... Its the way That TICK TICK on your recommendations and you will somewhat think of ..
2016-10-03 23:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by kuhlmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though its legit it still could be overplayed.
If your female intuition tells you somethings not right here its correct.
Can you say moo...?
He's milking you.
At the least if you can't get rid of the leech make him a house husband.
2006-11-14 16:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by Queen Burn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
25? Your clock is ticking? Where I'm from (NYC) women don't typically even try until 30.
But if his illness is keeping you from what you want or need, you have to make a decision which is more important.
2006-11-14 16:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by mr_mumbles_nyc 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Dump him and move on to a boyfriend that will give you what you want. You are selling yourself short by staying with him.
2006-11-14 16:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋