my roomie and i don't talk to eachother at all. at the beginning of the semester, she called me a 'bit.ch' for sticking up for what i believed in.. so i decided i wasn't going to talk to her. I caved in and started talking to her again.. only to be disrespected another time. I haven't talked to her in about 2 months.. and she hasn't talked to me. It would seem like things would be okay, but for some reason, i feel this incredible tension.. and it's stressing me out. My classes are tough, I don't want to put up with this roommate anymore. My mom won't let me move out of the dorms and I can't very well kick my roomie out of the room.. so what do i do?
2006-11-14 16:22:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You have already blocked all the options. Nothing but sustained compromise efforts seem to be the solution.
2006-11-14 16:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by Harry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
residing with acquaintances is tough. i've got faith your soreness. backside line although, in case you do no longer restoration it now you will remorseful approximately it extra later. you're able to have a take a seat-down, and speedy! tell him you in simple terms won't be able to deal with to pay for it anymore, and which you thought you had made your expectancies sparkling whilst he moved in. He could pay his share whether he's working or no longer, and he could pay it in complete each month. Set down some rules as much as now as different people staying on the homestead. attempt proscribing it to one night a week or consistent with threat in simple terms weekends. tell him which you fee his friendship and which you needed to communicate with him in the previous resentment and anger destroyed that comradeship. there are purely a pair methods this component ought to end: a million. He realizes that he has taken far too plenty with none attention and he makes issues suited by way of fact he values your friendship too, or 2. He gets p o'ed and finally finally ends up shifting out on his own or thoroughly disregards each little thing you reported and you ultimately finally end up throwing him out (wherein case, extra helpful you hit upon out now and be executed with the area than proceed to help a lazy ungrateful jerk). the single component i understand is that the faster you're looking after the project the less demanding it is going to be on you. there is not any clarification so you might enable it drag out. this is barely going to make you depressing longer. good success, i'm hoping you have great effects!!
2016-10-22 02:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act and don't react to the situation. Keep being what you are - a respectful , forgiving person. Why do you allow her to change you into someone worst? an unforgiving and disrespectful one? Don't be influenced by her, instead be the one to influence her by your good character. If you keep being nice and respectful of her , no matter what she does, she will eventually learn to acquire your good traits too. No matter how wet a wood is, if it is exposed near a fire daily, it will soon burn. Win her over by your good traits. I know it is difficult to be good when someone is nasty...but that is the real challenge ..and the self fulfilment obtained after you have succeeded is beyond words.
2006-11-14 22:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you approach her again and come to an agreement that you don't have to like each other but you do have to respect each other or you go to the school and ask to change rooms. the best way to do that is to find another person who can't stand their roomie and go to together or just do it on your own.
2006-11-14 16:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by uknowme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your R.A. (or whatever the people responsible for your dorm are called). They will have a system set up for something like this - usually they try to switch roommates.
2006-11-14 16:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by MikEnigma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you speak to your Hostel Warden and ask her to switch your roomie or ask yourself to be moved to another room.
2006-11-14 21:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
involve somebody head of the dorm involve Ur mother..say it all straight to her that just respecting each other till u two stay here should be the norm...that's it...go on...
don't care much ..for ppl who don't know to respect...
just avoid them..
2006-11-15 07:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be a good friend of her and hit at the right moment
2006-11-14 17:31:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
deal with it. spend as little time as possible in the room
2006-11-18 15:42:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋