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what can i do to get my husband financially out of my life, he has left us high and dry provided no financial support but yet he wants to drag out the divorce so drain my financially in legal bills and also wants half and more of all my suff

2006-11-14 16:21:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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I have had the same problem... if you have dirt on him use it!
It is pretty much blackmail but you have to do what you have to do to survive a divorce.
For instance I recently discovered my husbands adult personal ad on the internet, I will be sending it out as my christmas card to all of his family, friends and acquaintences....
We have a new car in both our names, I went to where he was staying in the middle of the night, took it, and parked it in my garage. I have restraining order against him so he can't come get it and the police can't do anything for him because its community property.
I am selling all of the belongings we acquired during the marriage to friends and family for really cheap prices... like our living room set for $1 etc. I even create a receipt for the item. Then I take it to the storage unit in my friends name and keep it there until the divorce is final. That way our assets are liquidated, and I can give him his half of $1. Then once the divorce is final I go pickup my stuff from the storage unit and get retain all of my belongings.

Other than that the only thing I know to do is to hire an attorney and that just costs more money.

Good luck girl!

2006-11-14 16:35:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Is the part that's dragging the divorce out your trying to reach a settlement agreement without going to court? If that's part of it, tell him you're done negotiating and you're done with mediation - you're going to court, and the judge will take care of deciding who gets what. No more discussion.

Attorney fees for that will be costly, but they may actually cost less than fiddling around trying to reach an agreement. (Speaking as someone who went through a 1 1/2 year long divorce from a lazy, greedy pig of a man not long ago.)

Your attorney has probably been through all of this with you, but assemble whatever documentation you can of what is really yours - gifts you were given, assets you had before getting married, personal property like clothing. Document/list off the major joint possessions too - cars, house, bank accounts. If you live in a community property state, he'll be entitled to half of those items.

If you're having an especially rough time financially, do mention it to your attorney. I believe that child support payments start being due from the date of separation, so if he hasn't been paying that all along, he's going to owe you back payments and in many states his wages can be garnished if he doesn't pay up. Your attorney can also advise you about matters like spousal support.

Document everything. Phone calls, letters, requests/threats regarding property. If you're on speaking terms with his family, let them know how his behavior is affecting the kids. Don't give in to his delaying tactics.

It sucks, but hopefully it'll be over soon. Good luck!

2006-11-14 16:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by IrritableMom 4 · 0 0

God do I feel for you. If you don't see an end in sight, see a mediator and see if you can't get a resolution there. If it looks like you have loads of legal fees ahead of you, get the number you would spend in your head and offer him 1/2 of that and stick to it and then gradually negotiate until you get to where you would spend in the end. Pricey lesson, I know. Generally speaking, in the end, you will replace about everything. Being done with him is the absolute best result and by any means necessary. The one end point that I would hang on to is that I would NOT allow any support to go on after a brief period of time. Even if it means just a lump sum, but only if it's recommended by the court. You want him GONE.

And if you can't hire a baracuda lawyer, interview all of them and take the one you can afford. Just speaking to them prevents him from hiring them.

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2015-01-28 08:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

There is nothing you can do. My ex husband did the same thing twice. Once when we divorced and another time when he decided he wanted custody. He lost both times. That money could have been used towards the kids.

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2016-02-10 13:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

What was yours before the marriage is yours and is not community property- ru in a cp state?? and what was given to you as a gift is also your personal property- ask your lawyer and request that ex hubby pay attorney fees- see if a legal separation will benefit you- D

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