he has everything... EVERYTHING.. personality, intelligence, humor, LOOKS , money, security, and most of all... respect and LOVE for me... he is very faithful and well centered... i can't come up with one flaw of his....
the only thing that ruins our relationship is my insecurity, because now that i have him, im so scared of losing him... im overly jealous and paranoid that all the girls want to take him from me... i cant come up with 1 reason to which any other woman want to take him from me (there are so many sluts and golddiggers nowadays)
should i settle for someone i admire less, or someone a little less desireable? so i can be more confident... weve been going out for 2 years and he wants to get married...
2006-11-14 16:20:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and also i had a hard time understanding why we ended up together since i never ever get guys like him.... im not used to these types of guys that all girls want to be with... its cool but sucks at the same time
2006-11-14 16:22:30 · update #1
why be insecure? all the girls may want him but you have him!!! if a guy has his choice, the wider the variety the better when he picks you. in his eyes, if he is going to marry you, then you are better than all the sluts and gold diggers. there are things to fear but life is just too short. if you love him go for it, keeping in mind that heart-ache is just a part of life. if he hurts you then you learn, but nothing will make you want to take back time with someone you truely love! just wait for certainty before adding kids!
2006-11-14 18:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love him, then he is not too perfect for you. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, NO ONE. If the only problem in your relationship that you see is your own insecurity, then you see what you need to work on. To give up and settle would only be because of your insecurity. You have found who you believe is the perfect man for you, don't let your own insecurity take that away. If what you are worried about is a woman taking him away from you, think to yourself, "If I am worried that he will leave me for another woman, do I really trust him enough to marry him?" At the same time that you are thinking that, make sure that you keep in mind that it may not be his faithfulness that you are worried about, it may just be your concern that your insecurity and constant jealousy will drive him away. Either way, if you truly love him, be happy and don't be so concerned with everyone else. Just be happy! Congratulations!
2006-11-15 00:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by mama of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you won't listen to what I'm going to say.... the answer is simple. You are too immature. You should not be marrying anyone. When you get married it should be to someone you have no questions about. If your questioning yourself it means your simply not grown into the person your meant to be yet. I don't believe anyone should marry until they are at least 25 years old. And even then if your not comfortable in your own skin wait until you are. Don't saddle this guy with your problems or worries or fears. Relax, grow up, once you realize your happiness doesn't come from anyone else on this planet except yourself, then you will be ready to enter into marriage.
2006-11-15 00:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by Summer F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i completely understand you and where you are coming from. i came out a really bad abusive (physically, emotionally, mentally) relationship of almost 5 years a little over a year ago. 8 months ago i found the man of my dreams. he is everything my ex wasnt and if i wasnt sure that he wasnt cheating on me i would think you are describing my man. i tell him all the time that he feels like a dream to me because things are so good and different and i too was very insecure because of that previous relationship. but now because of the simple fact that i dont want to lose him, i try to stop being so insecure because i trust him deep down inside and i want him to feel that also
2006-11-15 00:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by mookie mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until your self esteem kicks in you are going to be jealous of every chick that comes within 50 feet of him. There is no getting around this. There must be something about you that he loves to want to marry you. I hope you don't go telling him how you don't feel you are worthy of him or tell him how jealous you are of any chick that looks his way. That puts a guy off to no end. I sure hope you learn how to start enjoying this relationship it sounds like you have the possibility of being with a really good guy. Good Luck to you and I hope you don't botch it up with your insecurities.
2006-11-15 00:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the SAME situation!!! I came from NOTHING.... worked hard had a house and a nice car....lost everything!! (even almost lost my dogs) and then out of the blue comes this PERFECT man.... I mean educated with looks and all....comes from money....and I wonder everyday why he wants me... he can have anyone he wants..... i am not sure how to cope... it is just hard to believe that someone so wonderful loves me for me after all the screw ups and Sh** in my past.... Get counceling I suppose... that what I am going to secretly do... my advise if he is wanting to marry you...GO FOR IT!!! and enjoy life....this opportunity comes once in a lifetime....don't settle for a loser just cuz you have had bad luck in the past....Good luck with your future!!!!!!
2006-11-15 00:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand. I never understood why my husband liked me, and I went througha phase of trying to find something wrong.
I'm sure you are perfect to him too?
I think you could voice your insecurities to him but don't let the negative get in the way of your relationship. Sounds like you found a great guy. Just think about your good points and remember why he loves you!
2006-11-15 00:26:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Know your true worth before you go any further. No guy likes a girl who who doesn't like herself and visa versa. You need a huge wake up call, way too insecure. once you truely love yourself you will know who desrves who and what.
2006-11-15 00:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, but this will lead to the endless journey of pain and dejection. so if he is interested in marriage with you,just go for it, he may be mr.perfect for you, even if it is a risk,remember, losing without fighting is worse than losing after fight.
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2006-11-15 00:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY HUSBAND LOOKED LIKE THAT 2 AND I WAS MUCH LIKE YOU WONDERING HOW AND WHY I GOT SO BLESSED THEN IT HIT ME HE IS A GOOD MAN YES BUT THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS PERFECT YOU WILL SEE THIS THE FIRST TIME YOU PICK UP HIS DIRTY SOCKS AND UNDERWEAR OUT OF THE FLOOR THEN YOU WILL SEE WE ALL HAVE GOOD POINTS AND BAD GOOD LUCK
2006-11-15 00:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋