my main problem is I just lost my father, my best freind and my kids are 6 years apart. 5 and 11.?

Question

I wanted my dad to be there and now that cant happen he told me before he left I was a wonderful mother to the two I have and I am so heartbroken and depressed I dont think I can do this. Im an emotional wreck. I think I need mental and medecinal help and that cant happen being pregnant I know thats why I dont think its possible to go through this. My Husband is very excited but im completly withdrawn and cry all the time. What do I do for help??

Answer 1

Talk to your husband. Explain your feelings to him. He maybe a little more understanding than you think. I went through the same thing. I lost my mother, my best friend, and a week later I found out I was pregnant. I also have 2 children 6 years apart. Over the next seven months I slipped deeper and deeper into depression, completely withdrew from everything. Had panic attacks if I left the house. So I stopped leaving the house. My ob/gyn put me on medication because she said my stress was harder on the baby than the medication would be. The medication never did help me anyway, if anything it made me feel worse. In my 7th month I ended up losing the baby. The doctors don''t know what caused me to lose the baby. It was either the stress or the medication. At the time I was in no condition to handle more stress and guilt. The depression and panic attacks got worse. I stayed home for about 2 and 1/2 years. I didn't leave the house at all. I was a complete wreck. My children suffered the most, and I feel like I missed so much. It has now been 5 years, I have had time to grieve and yes, it took a very long time. I am not back to where I was before my mother passed away but I am a long way from the deepest and darkest depression I had ever experienced. I truly feel for you, that was the hardest thing I have ever had to go through in my life, and I am sure you are experiencing the same kind of hurt. I am sorry that you have lost your father. You'll be in my thoughts. Try to keep in mind that you will not feel this way forever no matter how hopeless things seem to be.

Answer 2

I'm sorry for your loss! But I also would like you to look at this from a different point of view for a bit. Imagine your father in your mind, He is holding a small bundle and then he holds it out to you. He is handing you a wonderfull bundle of joy and blessings that will last you a life time. As you take this bundle from him, you realize it is your new baby, and your father is right there with you every step of the way. You won't actually see him, but I guarantee that you'll feel him there. The spiritual realm is actually very near! Not to many years ago my oldest grandaughter was born. As her mom entered the final stages of delivery. Both myself and my daughter felt my grandmothers presence in the room. It was as if she were "delivering" the spiritual child to the mortal body! It was a moment we shall always remember! Don't think of your father as gone from your life. He really isn't, You can speak to him any time you like and he will be there to listen. He has moved on for the time and you must move forward in your life as well. I pray that you will feel the love, comfort and joy of knowing this truth. It's not a good bye, but more of a "see ya later"!
Also Prayer can bring you comfort. After all who better to turn to in your time of need that the great comfortor! The first few weeks will be the hardest to get thru. But by and by you'll feel better. Hang in there! Your family needs you. Remember all things must pass. Every thing passes away except God, and he is sufficient! Your father beleives you can do this! Is he wrong?

Answer 3

The complete suppose reeks of a badly disfunctioning underclass, children from a lot of distinct fathers, no-one looks to have ever had even essentially the most elementary schooling, step dad who is sooo younger, who is violent, who is a paedo. The neighbourhood celebrated her being determined by way of placing round at the avenue downing cans of lager. The complete factor is just a little of a watch-opener truthfully. Poor, deficient children. What risk do they've? And undoubtedly they're going to develop as much as repeat a complete lot in their mothers and fathers errors sadly. Hope now not, however I wager there is a v well risk of that.

Answer 4

I'm very sorry for your loss... I just lost two special grandparents in a horrible car accident a few months ago... it's not easy losing loved ones. What I have to say may help - I hope at least... you have wonderful children to raise and they need you. Your father would NOT want you to quit and be unhappy... he loved you so much - enough to tell you he thought you were a wonderful loving mother! So think about what he would want... would he want you to stop your life? Or to move on, and keep him in your heart, but to be happy... you have a purpose in life. And know some day you will be with your father again, as I will be with my sweet Grandmother again some day. I've lost several- so many family members... so it's not that I get over it quickly, I do feel numb when it happens... but I know they wouldn't want me to be miserable with my life and down crying over them. They would want me just as happy as I was when they were here with me. Saying all of this really does help me. Also, know you can cry and let it out. You need to. If you have to, go to his grave and talk to him- that really helps me as well. If I tell them about my day-good or bad... and sometimes I will cry there... I let it out... and after that, I feel better. Never forget he loved you, but know it makes him happy when you are happy.

I hope this helped a little. Take care of yourself! Smile if you can!

"Live, Love, Laugh"- this quote helps me a lot.

Answer 5

you actually do have a few options in meds to take for emotional problems during pregnancy. Ask you obgyn about it. Hang in there girl....be strong for your baby and family. You can get through this.

Answer 6

I'm so sorry, pray for guidance. that is all I can say