ok, it's calmed down quite a bit now. he used to just start crying all the time. and i do mean ALL the time. for no reason!! even to the point where he'd cry so hard he wouldn't breath IN and he'd pass out!!!! he hardly ever does that anymore, but now i have a problem with him EVERY night. when i give him a bath, he's just fine, and all smiles. but when my fiance, (NOT his real mom), gives him one, he does nothin but cry the whole time. she doesn't do nothin wrong with him, she's as gentle as a lamb!! but it's not just when she's bathing him, it's anytime she's doing anything with him. he acts like he doesn't wanna have nothing to do with her! she'll just want to play, or hug him and he'll start crying. then i'll do the same and he'll laugh! how can i bring these two closer together and make him bond with her? please help.
2006-11-14 16:06:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Time!!!! YOu can't really force a child to like or dislike someone. She is going to have to prove herself to him. She will grow on him, he is still young and will adapt. Just do a lot of little things with him, and gradually include her like sitting on the couch watching a movie. Going for a walk, don't force her on him and she should give him the space he needs to accept her on his own terms. If she has to give him a bath for some reason, she should not touch him if he does not want her too. Just keep an eye on him even if she has to sit outside the door. He will get clean enough, you should take special steps to teach him to wash his own hair. That way she will not over step his personal space. The trying three's are just as hard as the terrible two's. It's normal behavior especially since she's is not MOMMY. It is probably confusing to him.
2006-11-14 16:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think about it, another lady is doing what his mother usually does for him. This must be distressing for him. He had no choice in the matter. You didn't mention anything about his real mom, and hopefully, she is a loving mother, just like your fiance is trying to be. It might help if you seek help from your doctor and take it from there, making sure he is physically alright. If all is well seek help from a counselor or parenting classes.
2006-11-14 16:20:26 · answer #2 · answered by 8p8a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a determine myself (3 little ones) and entirely sense your frustration!!! i will additionally see how plenty you like your son. 3 12 months olds could nicely be very manipulative, and that they LOVE seeing their mothers and dads react! Take a great step returned, interior your self. you are able to't MAKE your 3 12 months old like your fiancee. Reassure your son of your love for him. whilst he's performing out, tell him as flippantly as obtainable that his behaviour isn't ok. consistent with threat you and your fiancee could take a number of the emotional concentration off him, and consistent with threat end attempting so perplexing??! i think that with time, he will relax and could appreciate his destiny step-mum. little ones do in comparison to alter, and that they do no longer like it whilst rookies threaten their time with their determine. whilst my companion and that i separated, my infants rather acted out, and it grew to become into very perplexing, very draining emotionally. i attempted to maintain each little thing of their own little international an identical, schedules, daycare, mattress time workouts, and so on. And with time, each little thing has rather settled down. each so often little ones pass with the aid of those detrimental classes, the place you in simple terms prefer to tear out your hair. yet they and you gets with the aid of it. It sounds to me such as you're a loving and dedicated dad - the two your fiance and your son are fortunate to have you ever. it's going to be ok! good success!
2016-10-22 02:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang on......your boy is trying to tell you something instead of trying to get them to become closer try and understand what he is saying to you or why he only cries with her. every young child always knows something about another step parent that you cant see. hope this helps
2006-11-14 16:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what does she do to your son when you are not around? she had to have done something (hit him, scream) She is not going to harm him and will always be as gentle as a lamb and an angel when you are there but when you're not her horns will sprout.
2006-11-14 16:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by mickey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has an attachment to his real mother, and doesn't feel the security with the other mother.
2006-11-14 16:14:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it could be he has had a bad experience with your fiance when your not around or....He has had a traumatic experience with a woman who was his care giver......or he is happy when your there and is afraid you are going to leave him and go when he is with someone Else.
Remember your daddy...
I strongly suggest a child physiologist...No drugs..
2006-11-14 16:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by Amy Jean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds fishy to me. Babies can't lie and something must have happened with your woman and him.
2006-11-14 16:14:40 · answer #8 · answered by Gettin_by 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey not to make it sound bad but she had to do somthing to that boy to make him cry im sorry being a mother i know im sorry i would talk to your doctor about this PLEASE!!
2006-11-14 16:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋