I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months. I love him to pieces, but I'm starting to think he might have a wife. Ever sense I told him I was prengnant I told him how I thought we should get married he has been acting weird. He REALLY wanted me to have an abortion and told me he would never marry me! How can I be sure....and what do I do, I'm 6 months pregnant!
2006-11-14 15:53:52 · 16 answers · asked by sorry_forever_and_ever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
And im catholic, its a sin to have a baby with no father!!!! but its also a sin to have an abortion!!!
2006-11-14 15:56:10 · update #1
should i give up the baby to a adoption? how can I do that? someone please tell me what i can do!!! im falling apart!!!
2006-11-14 15:57:41 · update #2
I can't raise the baby on my own im in college!
2006-11-14 15:58:28 · update #3
Oh, I think you're sure of what's happening here...married or not, he's a lying piece of sh!t. Lose him, AFTER you get him for child support.
2006-11-14 16:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by mickeyg1958 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you asked so here goes. If you've been in a relationship with this man for ten months and didn't know if he was married before now. Stop having unprotected sex. Second, if you're Catholic you shouldn't have been having sex should you? The thing of it is. Have you ever been to his place of residence? Have you ever met his family? What about spent the night with him or the weekend? Have you noticed a brightness to his ring finger on his left hand? Do you call him at home anytime you wish day or night and he answers and talk? The thing of it is if he's married he sure can't marry you too. He's probably scared as hell. He defiantly doesn't want his wife to find out about this. I think you already know that this man is married. Since your already 6 months pregnant PLEASE DON"T have an abortion. Put the baby up for adoption. The next time you decided to have a relationship make sure you make the guy wear a condom. Just like you're not sure if this man's married your not sure if the next one has AIDS or not. Be careful for your sake. This can be cleaned up but aids can't. Good Luck and GOD BLESS!!!!! I'm Baptist
2006-11-14 16:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is.. don't have an abortion. If you are unable to take care of this child, then maybe you should give it up for adoption. There are thousands of loving couples that are waiting to adopt a child. A loving mother would be willing to give that child the best she can, and maybe adoption is the best answer. If you feel compelled to keep the baby yourself (there are plenty of college students with babies) then you'll be able to work it out. Ask your parents and friends for support. Also, a crisis pregnancy center can help you out emotionally and financially if that is a problem.
I know this is the most depressing thing to find out right after you get pregnant, but, this guy doesnt love you. He wouldn't force you to go against your morals (have an abortion) if he truly cared about you. Don't worry about marrying him. He doesn't deserve you. There will be more guys down the road that will come to respect you for who you are, and not some object.
And finally, if you keep the child, make sure he pays full child support.
2006-11-14 16:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's also a sin to have sex before marriage, being a good catholic girl and all. Maybe you should have thought about all of this before having sex without protection. If you've been with him for 10 mnths and he's never invited you to his place then there's a clue that he might be married. It;s going to be a tough decision to make, whether to keep the baby, adopt or abort. But it's going to have to sit right with you what ever you do. If he is not prepared to step up to the plate and take responsibility then he is a loser and your better off without him. Good luck!
2006-11-14 16:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is really a sticky situation. forget about the loser he doesn't want to have a baby with you. and i do think that you are right he probably is married or is in a relationship. You have to do what is best for you and your baby. I know that it will be hard but you need to leave him alone. now is the time to make some hard decisions about your future. if you can not care for the baby maybe adoption is best. or if you choose to keep the baby make sure the SOB pays child support to help you with the baby. next time you really need to be more responsible. i am so sorry about this. the man should be happy that he is having a baby. and this is your first pregnancy you should be enjoying it but instead you are stressed. but you will be ok just love your baby more than anything. good luck to you. i hope everything works out for you.
2006-11-14 16:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be fine!! Sin or no sin!! just love that baby more than that selfish 37 year old could ever love you!
You could come out and ask him if he is.. but having a baby is no reason to get married.. rethink your involvement with this man,, you might be better off without him if he doesn't want to take responsibility for his penis thinking instead of his lack of maturity.
2006-11-14 15:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The easy way that my mom told me to tell if a man is married is to ask him if you can cook him dinner at his place. A single man will jump on it.
Now on the baby I don't believe in killing them, but if your not ready to have one think about giving it up. I never had kids and I waited over 15yrs for a baby to adopt. Only by time they called me I was on my way out the door leaving my husband.
2006-11-14 16:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by Tedi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right,have the baby and raise it the best you can alone or...Give it up for adoption 'cause it's too late to have an abortion.
2006-11-14 16:00:13 · answer #8 · answered by serenity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything about something in the past, and you certainly know where you stand with your child's father. You now have to stop thinking about the romance and put your child first. Life is about making mistakes and learning from them. Make sure he supports the child financially.
2006-11-14 16:11:47 · answer #9 · answered by Ted T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's let you know how he feels about you and the baby...it doesn't matter if he's married or not.
You have 3 months to get your life on track to get ready for this precious baby who had an idiot for a father.
Please make sure to take him to court so he can help support this child....good luck.
2006-11-14 15:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋