Would all of our relationships work better if we saw each other less?

Question

Like... maybe twice a week or so? Everything is more exciting in my past relationships when we saw each other only a couple of times a week instead of more often. So what happens when you get married???

Answer 1

We all need our space otherwise we start getting in each other's nerves. I agree with you except 2x a wk is too little of a time to be together. What about somewhere down the middle like 4x a wk spaced every other day?

Answer 2

I believe the saying "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" has alot of truth to it....when people see each other alot they begin to take each other for granted. You lose that spark you had for the other person, the feeling you felt when you first started dating when everything was new and exciting. I have been married for over nine years to my husband and we have 5 kids together. We see each other all of the time because we always need to be home with the kids with the exception of when he goes to work. We get on each other's nerves alot. I find that he seems to take me for granted and I feel lonely alot when he's around.

I do think that perhaps relationships would be better if couples spent more time apart. It would give both partners more time to think about what it is that they love about the other person.

Answer 3

Tom every couple is different you can't put how many times is enough or not enough. Some like there space some like to see more of the other. you have to find one that works out for both of you.

And when your married well hopefully you will have found your life partner or the one at that moment in time. and she has her own agenda on doing things independantly so you don't feel glued to her at the hip if not buy a house with a garage and make a nice room for yourself that should help hehe.

Answer 4

I only get to see my husband 3 maybe 4 times a week because of his job. He is home for less then 24 hours a week. At first I did get really excited to see him when he got home but now, it's like sometimes I resent him for always being at work, explicitly because our kids only get to see there father for maybe 7 hours a week, then he ether has to go back to work or they have to go to bed. It is very hard to stay connected when a couple doesn't spend time together. You marry someone because you want to be with them not because you want to date them.

Answer 5

I think so. It just means everything you do together is that much more special and precious. Of course in marriage this isn't possible (you may do nothing together). I've seen some good thoughts on this which include never stopping dating the person you're married to. Make dates together and keep the flame alive!

Answer 6

I have had some experience with this area. When I first married, my husband and I had completely different schedules. We were only together Saturday afternoons and Sundays. I can honestly say our relationship was better then. It's that old adage, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Answer 7

That is what seperates true love from a fling. Wanting to see someone every day, and wanting to spend every minute with them, that is what makes marriage so special. If you only want to see someone twice a week, and dont want to see them more, then you cant learn as much about that person, and you cant truley have strong feeligns for them.

Answer 8

Well ya! because if u dont see each other often..u are all anxious to see them at your next date! That's why sometimes, long-distance relationships are the best! And honey, why do you think divorce was invented???!? huh???

Answer 9

I think some relationship bond and grow and you just can't be without the person and some well once a year would be too much...Go figure huh

Answer 10

You become so secure in believing that the other person will always be there that you start taking them for granted. And yes it probably would help give it more spice.