I cheated on her last year. Is this revenge or something else? What should I do?
2006-11-14 15:25:15 · 21 answers · asked by Iamaman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe it is for revenge, maybe it isn't. At any rate, you both have bigger problems than anyone here can give you answers for. You both need to seek counseling together if you are to save your marriage.
2006-11-14 15:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why are you cheating to begin with, really that should've stop when yall got married. If she did not get enough revenge with your experience then yes i am sure that it is revenge. If yall are having problems with your marriage maybe you should seek help or maybe a divorce, but i really don't think cheating on her or vice verse is the answer for solving your problems. Really you cant get to mad at her because you are just as guilty as her. But if you love her and you want your marriage to work then you must stop the revenge game and just start loving your wife the way you did when you got married to her. And if she cheated with a younger man then i am sure its just a revenge thing however a rich older man would be an affair.
2006-11-14 15:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by aunty bec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both cheating on each other then why not just get a divorce? If it's because you have kids, then do the kids a favor and divorce. You don't really want your kids growing up thinking that your marriage is an example of a happy one and that IS what they will think and it will only harm their future relationships. So tell your wife you know her secret and go from there.
2006-11-14 15:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by belleebuttons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did the two of you get married? Snooping, cheating, revenge - sounds like neither one of you is ready for a real marriage.
2006-11-14 15:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by amivins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would confront her and would tell her what you know. I would also let her know how betrayed you feel and that you know understand how she felt when you cheated on her. From this point on you both need to decide if fixing your relationship is worth your time, since now there is no trust from either side. And trust is a key element of any relationship.
She does not trust you and I am certain you do not trust her. If you truly love her and she truly loves you then the relationship can be saved. Good luck to you.
2006-11-14 15:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by Cyrinos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some women all human beings is fairly intuitive. She felt like something became up and knew you will deceive disguise your a**, so which you compelled her to snoop. you will desire to be asking your self what you're able to do to help her experience greater take care of in the relationship. i comprehend no one needs to experience like their better half is their ascertain, yet be an open e book and permit her snoop, invite her to snoop for as long as she needs to experience beneficial in you back. If that's even a possibility. i comprehend that if my husband cheated, i'd end it suitable away. i comprehend i could no longer have confidence somebody back after that super of a difficulty, so be grateful she did no longer walk away already. pass to counseling.
2016-10-15 13:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by deliberato 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some hard evidence. You don't want to accuse her and be wrong. If it comes down to this, you just might have to part ways. I don't see how people can find it in themselves to cheat! I'm sorry, but if you really truly love someone, you won't do something horrible like that. I'm only 16 and i know that... Jesus...
2006-11-14 15:33:11 · answer #7 · answered by Nobody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cheated on her she's cheating on you man get counseling or get divorced this is not a marriage it's a flatmate with benefits relationship. Maybe it's revenge or maybe she is looking for loyalty?
2006-11-14 15:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u want to save your marriage go to her and confront the issue of your cheating and show your remorse, maybe her cheating is caused by her not being over your initial betrayal. communication is key right now, confront in a loving way and not a judgemental way. ask her to go to therapy with u.
2006-11-14 15:33:13 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did it too, u cant really be mad at her. She may be telling herself its okay since u did this to her. I would definitely confront her. Sounds like u two need to figure out if u should really be together.
2006-11-14 15:29:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋