I've been married for 10 years. We have 2 kids; 8 and 5. I've been seeing my girlfriend for 7 years; and I love her. But I won't leave my wife. Well....she is threatening to tell my wife about us if I don't do something about this triangle. She says she is tiried of being the third wheel. what can I do?
2006-11-14 14:57:46 · 27 answers · asked by pickledplumsaregross 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
can someone please give me some advice! I can't go to my friends....it's too embarressing.....
2006-11-14 15:06:21 · update #1
tell yoUr wife because if your g/f tells her say good by to your children and plus u may love ur g/f but she docent love u because She would have waited for u to end Ur marriage or just leave u alone real love isn't being the other women shies there because She gearing something out of it money and apartment etc. think about it. if She loved u She would let u be happy with Ur wife and children
2006-11-14 15:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Terrrible woman you ended up with. things didn't go as plan now she wants to rat you out. Tell her if she does you will definately have nothing to do with her. Why would you want a woman like that. besides she new the game plan going in you were married what did she expect?.. sounds like she was trying to bait you in hopes you leave your family sneaky she had alterior motives as well can't say you don't deserve it though that what happens when you play with fire you could get burned. Either way your not happy in your marriage or you would't have strayed for 7 years maybe this is for the best and you can start over. BUT please next time be more choosy of the women you pick out. cause they can come back to haunt you later . specially if there the vindictive kind like here either way you see what she 's made up now. I say run from her not walk. good ridden to the trash.
2006-11-14 23:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And this my friend is why you don't commit adultery...
God made this a commandment for a reason! Your wife needs to know so she can find someone better. How can you say you love your girlfriend?
And your girlfriend makes me sick. Your WIFE is the third wheel. Your girlfriend needs to be slapped! I don't know what's worse, you fooling around on your wife or your "mistress" doing this to another woman. How would she feel if it happened to her?
I remember watching on some talk show where this woman was a mistress and she ended up worrying that *she* was going to be cheated on. Well, she better be because life has a tendency to come back and bite you in the butt.
I feel sorry for your wife. I know that honesty has a tendency to hurt in a relationship. I don't want your wife to take this in such a way that it ruins her life.
2006-11-14 23:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by New mommy 2010! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One of the most unfortunate things about this situation is that the ONLY reason you're fretting is that you're about to get hung drawn and quartered by either one or the other. You seem to have no remorse about the affair just getting caught. It shows you are a weak and shallow human being.
Why would you promise a lifetime commitment to someone if you can't even stay faithful for 3 years? It sounds like the cake that you wanted to have and eat too is about to choke you. You need to be a man and tell your wife before your mistress does. It's better that she hears it from you than her.
I really feel for your wife and kids to know that their husband and father is a philandering lying cheating spineless self important poor excuse for a man. I hope you learn something from this experience.
2006-11-15 05:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by dirkthesmirk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how could you be so stupid? Second of all, you have treated both your wife and your girlfriend very poorly. Third of all, tell your wife before she does. Your wife deserves to hear the truth and she deserves to hear it from you (I'd be willing to bet she already knows) and if you tell her first then you don't have to worry about what kind of "spin" your girlfriend will put on it. Fourth of all, if you love your girlfriend then I am assuming that you must not be in love with your wife. If that is the case then perhaps you should consider ending the marriage. And just a little FYI in most cases the one who petitions for divorce first is the one to get what they want provided they don't go overboard.
2006-11-15 00:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by Kymbo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your fault, not your wives fault not your girlfriends fault or your kids!
#1 If you really loved your wife would you be seeing your girlfriend?
#2 I suggest you break up with her right away and I hop your a good liar, cause this is going to take ALOT of explaining.
This is not your wives fault becuase she had nothing to do with this, Except YEAH this is her fault for marrying someone like you! Your kids had nothing to do with this, and it's not your girlfriends fault because you were the one hanging out with her, and "Loving her" If you DID love her you wouldnt be married now would you? And shame on you! Having kids! Those poor kids, didnt do anything to deserve this! They dont deserve a father like you!
2006-11-14 23:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by alexa f 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is decide which one you really love and get rid of the other. You aren't supposed to have a girlfriend if your married. It's time for you to grow up and quit being so selfish. Is one of your children a girl? If so what would you do if you found out her hubby was cheating on her when she grows up and gets married? Bet you'd beat the heck out of him. Think about that.
2006-11-14 23:37:09 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is no better than you! Both of you should be totally ashamed of yourself! Your wife and children are counting on you too! Break it off with your girlfriend asap, and pray to God she never tells your wife. Your girlfriend is tired of being the third triangle? Well, she's the one who took sloppy left overs in the first place!!!
2006-11-14 23:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by sue d 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to choose. You say you love your girlfriend. Are you willing to endure the consequences of coming clean w/ everyone about her? People will hate you, & you might lose your family forever. Decide if you can really have a future with your girlfriend. What would you want your wife to do if the situation were reversed?
2006-11-14 23:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you made your bed now you'll have to lie in it, there is nothing you can do except tell your wife the truth no matter how hard it hurts, both you and your girlfriend should know better, you because you took vows to your wife and only thought about your needs before your wife and children's and your girlfriend for being stupid for getting involved with a married man who has done nothing but string her along for 7 years yet claims he loves her but continues to stay in an unhappy marriage....
2006-11-15 02:07:04 · answer #10 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋