I moved to a different state and I feel like I’m losing all the people I'm closest to. Whereas before, I always knew about guys, life, just day-to-day everything. Stupid as this sounds, I was just looking at my best friends questions on here and noticed she has a bunch of posts about “someone” that may like her- I’ve never even heard of him. Which before would have been crazy, we always talked about everything together, including all our different guys. It seemed to me that before we would ask each other things, and now she is posting stuff on answers, yet I’ve never heard a word of it. I know this sounds rediculous, but it’s like we are all going to different colleges, and everyone is moving on- except me. I’m losing everyone...and learning that no one really gives a **** about me. And it sucks. Has this ever happened to you? (I’m not talking about exactly, more so in a sense of losing friends). And what do you think I should/can do about it?
2006-11-14 14:45:49 · 4 answers · asked by Megan 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can't do much about it. Do you appear different to your old friends?
It happened to me at that stage and overcame it by never having a close female friend again.
This is orobably not what you what you want to do but just make some new friends and don't let them get too close.
Women friends can be cruel.
2006-11-14 15:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to move foward and let go of your friends. Seems they are having an easier time of it than you. It's not easy, but the best thing to do is try make new friends wherever you are now. You might be surprised to find that if you move on and make new friends, the old one's will be contacting you again to see how things are going. There's not much I can say now to make you feel better, but oneday you'll look to your new friends and be so glad you have them and not the old ones. Good luck!
2006-11-14 23:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by salstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya it sucks. I used to go into a depression about this sort of thing. It's worse for girls because close personal connections are so important on an unconscious/biological level. All you can do is move on. Don't hang on to the past-seriously. You won't mature or learn from new experiences as much as you potentially could if you keep trying to preserve your old situations. There's more out there!
2006-11-14 22:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by NaCl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it did happened to me before. I have 3 best friends, and there came a point when the 3 of them seem to be leaving me out their secrets, dilemas etc. (what BFFs usally share) since I was involved with loads of activities in school and couldn't hang out much.
The feeling sucks, I know. What I did initially is to find my own "new" bestfriends but it didn't work, because I still see my old BFFs and miss having their company. Finally I confronted them and they realised how I really felt and that helped a great deal in mending our friendship.
Try to confront them. it's the best solution. But since you have moved somewhere else, I truely suggest that you try to find your own circle of good friends there. Although it can never be compared to the first, but at least you'll have people who you can really trust there. Most importantly, try not to lose contact with the old friends!!!
2006-11-14 23:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋