my mom doesnt like the way i dress she says i look like a drug addict lol she says i should be like the other girls...umm NO! never going to happen lol we had a argument about why i dress the way i do. She says i should care about what others think of me and i dont i just wear i want i feel comfertable in cause to me it doesnt matter what others think but to her it matters ALOT. HAHA i want Doc Martens but she says NO but im getting them anyways... we fight all the time ... and so odoes the rest of my family they dont understand me what should i do?!
she doesnt like anything about me she wants me to change everything about myself but its just who i am i tried explaining to her but she just ends up yelling at me :(
im soo scared of her when she calls me it freaks me out and if she finds out i tell people all this she would kill me seriously...
like last time she caught me telling somebody this she said next time you do this im gonna throw
2006-11-14 14:43:45 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just tell your mom you are being who you are right now and that is the best thing for you. In the future things will change because your goals and outlook will change. You are probably thinking "NOT!" right about now, but trust me they will. Always keep in mind there isn't much you are going through or will go through that your mom hasn't experienced. You can both use this to your advantage if your mother can try and remember what it was like to be your age. When it comes time to get out of the house and get on your own chances are you are going to dress differently just to be able to acquire gainful employment and support yourself. Just try and picture yourself at your moms age wearing the clothes you are wearing now. Not a pretty picture huh. lol. Anyway, your mom just needs to understand you are being you for the time being and she can either accept it or not. As long as you are staying out of trouble and not doing anything to harm yourself or your future who cares what you wear? Just remember she loves you. I hope this helps a little.
2006-11-14 14:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by bldrjck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you try and comprimise with mom. And when your out with her or family events can you tone yourself down in that regard and look respectable. I know its not your cup of tea and you don't see this now its all about you wanna be you and make a statement but some of the kids out there today scream for help and attentions. try to meet mom half way she will be happy to know her daughter respects her and you won't have to lose all of your look just take it down a few notches when you have big events or family get togethers.
Its a reflection on her you see. other people say how could they let that girl dress and go out like that where are her parents if you can try to understand it from her view it might be easier for you to understand her.
good luck
2006-11-14 23:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give ma a second. Do you live at home? If you do you should respect her wishes. Until you are out on your own them baby you need to do what you are told. If my child argue with me it would be there ----. I pay for them a place to live and put a roof over there head. They will do what I say. I will give if it needs to be. You can be your own person when you are out on your own.I want let my girls wear all black. I watch what they listen to and who they date. This world is rough no. So what you wear will tell others what type of person you are. Looks are the fist impression. That is what you really need to do. Good Luck.
2006-11-14 22:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by Ready G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dress how you want honey. It shouldn't matter how you dress as long as your not putting yourself out there for the creeps in this world. To tell the truth she's probably just pissed because she doesn't have the guts to do it. Most of the time when people act like what you have described you mother acting, it's because people expect certain things of them and they don't have the guts to say screw you I do what I please. Try not to argue with her and just walk away because you can't explain things to people like her.
2006-11-14 23:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by dixie.doll84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you are dressing in some way that could set you up to be attacked by some jerk out there do what you want. you are your own person and need to do what makes you comfortable.
props to you for not worrying about what everyone else thinks of you, that's a rare quality these days.
2006-11-14 22:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by gypse76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋