Losing friends...?

Question

I moved to a different state and I feel like I’m losing all the people I'm closest to. Whereas before, I always knew about guys, life, just day-to-day everything. Stupid as this sounds, I was just looking at my best friends questions on here and noticed she has a bunch of posts about “someone” that may like her- I’ve never even heard of him. Which before would have been crazy, we always talked about everything together, including all our different guys. It seemed to me that before we would ask each other things, and now she is posting stuff on answers, yet I’ve never heard a word of it. I know this sounds rediculous, but it’s like we are all going to different colleges, and everyone is moving on- except me. I’m losing everyone...and learning that no one really gives a **** about me. And it sucks. Has this ever happened to you? (I’m not talking about exactly, more so in a sense of losing friends). And what do you think I should/can do about it?

Answer 1

This happens to a lot of people. Especially friends who move to another town, state, etc. Many people believe that friendships and relationships will stay the same because they feel that while the surroundings may change, the person will not. This is just not true. People adapt to their surroundings and if that means making new friends and maybe losing touch with their old ones, then they just might do it because it makes them feel more comfortable. You're a good friend for not giving up on your friendships. I'm sorry if you feel that they haven't been doing the same. Continue to stay in touch with your friends and hopefully, they will appreciate it. But I have to warn you if it turns out that they've strayed too far, you're going to have to learn to deal with it. I know it's harsh, but it's a fact of life that everyone has to deal with. People change and they grow apart and sometimes all you can do is learn to move on with your life.

And yes, this has happened to me twice in my life. I've lost two best friends because they moved away. But I learned to pick up the pieces and make new friends and eventually, the pain of losing those friends goes away. The most important thing I've learned though is the fact that if a friendship falls apart, it probably wasn't worth salvaging in the first place.

Answer 2

Well honey keep your chin up and you will be fine. my parents moved me for the first time was i was in high school 10 hours away from where i was born and raised, It was hard but i knew that i had to make the best out of it so i did. You might lose a few friends along the way but i am sure that down the road you will catch up with some of those friends then you will stay close with them. At least that is what happened to me and now like 10 years later i have found my best friends all over again, and everyone is still the same but different, you should be just fine just remember to keep your chin up and make the best of it because it is a new experience for you. Life is always about new experiences.

Answer 3

Well, actually, I went to a stay away camp for 9 days, and it was more like Summer school, since it was a leadership camp. I didn't expect to really make friends, since it was all educational, but I did. I made friends with 4 other people who I find really special. The downside is that we're scattered across the whole U.S. and we only get to see each other for 9 days each year because of this "camp." Even so, we don't get to spend much time together because we're always on the move with this company, going from country to country, and there's an age difference between us.

I just came back from Europe with these people, and we all have plans for next summer. Two of the guys and I are going to Poland, Russia, Lithuania, etc., the other girl is going to Australia, and the other boy is going to Greece, Rome, and Paris. We're all splitting up (except for me and the other two), but it's kind of like losing family.

At first, I was scared about us all going different ways, because I was scared they were going to forget about each other, and me, and replace us with someone else.
But you know, if you make connections with these people, and they really feel like you're their true friend, they'll never forget you. I know that we will all be together, even if it doesn't happen in the course of a year, but it will happen if you really try.

Just make new friends (I'm not saying completely forget about your old ones), keep in touch with the old, and try to see them as much as possible. Of course, you won't have them with you all the time, but you will have them with you in your heart. You will never forget the memories you've had together, if they really meant/mean something to you.

As I always say: "Make new friends, but keep the old. New friends are made of silver, and old are made of gold."

Answer 4

It's the same concept as myself. My friend is becoming another person right in front of my eyes and I can;t do nothing. She left me for some new friends. But do you know how I solved it? I still try to at least have some type friend relationship with her and try and get new friend. Thinking you're in a new state, it can't be helped. So stick with her and meet great new buddies. In the end for myself, I've met lots of friends. It's a really grand idea. Maybe you should try it?

Answer 5

Im ALWAYS loosing friends, I dont think theres a day Im not loosing friends but you know what, if they are REAL friends then they will stick by thats why the came up with the phrase "one true friend and your a millionare" just hang in there, your not alone there are tons of us ready to be true friends to people like us, youl get some!

Answer 6

you know wat..dont worry about it it always happens to me. I am acually losing a friend her name is Maresella. i also miss my best friend Addy she was the best and then she moved.i really miss her.