do you think i should say something to my roommate about cooking my food?

Question

i told my roommate that i would be cooking when i got off from work. when i walk in the door from work later that night she was already cooking. i told her that i was going to cook. she said she got bored. first of all, i bought the food, so i feel that i should be the one to cook the food. second of all, i didn't like the way she cooked. this will be her second time doing this. do you think i should say something to her about or should i just leave it alone.

Answer 1

best to say something now instead of blow up...tell her you would rather cook your food the way you are accustomed to eating it...

Answer 2

Were they just trying to be nice? Considering you just got done with work and all, she may have just been trying to do you a favor and help out. I'd say thanks for cooking, but next time please wait until I get home. You could have been saving it for a special dinner for friends that you may have been having over or something. And if she goes and cooks your stuff when your not there, then it's not going to be there when you need it. I guess I wouldn't go into how crappy of a cook she is, but you did buy it. My daughters had this issue thousands of times! Finally, I told her that unless they make a grocery list together and split the bill in half, that whats hers is hers and to label it. I know that sounds minor, but again, it is your hard earned money buying the stuff.

Answer 3

You should just tell her that you want new food rules ... she who buys the food, eats it, no exceptions except what you both agree on at the start (like bread, milk, flour etc whatever you'd rather just share or can't keep separate). Food issues are really basic ... roommates sometimes overlook it, but it's as basic as sleep and physical space. When someone messes with your food and eating, they're making an extremely subtle dominance attack on you. Well, or maybe I'm just sensitive - I just know I did this to a roommate once and in retrospect I see it for what it was. But you should not just leave it alone, unless you really feel you were overreacting and it doesn't really bother you all that much. Because you're letting her get away with pushing you over, in a very subtle way.

Answer 4

Do you get along in most other ways? If so, then bringing this up may not be the best idea. She said she was bored, so maybe you can take that and go w/it. Suggest to her other things she could do to be helpful around the house/apt.If she's looking for things to accomplish,think of some other things she can spend her time doing to be helpful. Don't be too critical of her cooking. I think she probably was only trying to be helpful and really didn't mean any harm. Could you possibly suggest gently some helpful cooking hints?

Answer 5

Personally I do not think that you should be rude at all. Your roommate was probably trying to be more of a friend, and she just thought she was helping you out. Maybe ya ll should try to cook together so that you could show her the way that you cook, If you are friends its always better to cook with someone.

Answer 6

You definitely should say something or it is going to continue to bother you until you blowup about it.

Just tell her you think there is a misunderstanding about food preparation. When you say you are going to cook you do not want her for any reason doing any of the cooking. Then ask her if there is any of that she doesn't understand?

She might get a little huffy or whiny depending on her personality, but you will have made your point and that will be the end of it.

Answer 7

You are lucky to have a roommate that is trying to do something nice for you. Maybe the solution is to pick out the recipes for the week, then she can cook and you will have a choice in what you eat.

Answer 8

Tell her that you appreciate her cooking, but if you're the only one buying the food, she should respect your wishes. But she is probably trying to impress you by having the meal ready when you get home.

Answer 9

if shes a bad cook then tell her to lay off, if shes a good cook say "oh well, gives me some free time."

Answer 10

yes as soon as possible tell her, please dont cook your food..you bought the food for yourself.if she like to cook to buy what she like to cook.the main thing is tell her hands off your food unless you invite her, tell her you dont mean any hum but those are the facts.