family conflicts what should i do?!?

Question

my mom doesnt like the way i dress she says i look like a drug addict lol she says i should be like the other girls...umm NO! never going to happen lol we had a argument about why i dress the way i do. She says i should care about what others think of me and i dont i just wear i want i feel comfertable in cause to me it doesnt matter what others think but to her it matters ALOT. HAHA i want Doc Martens but she says NO but im getting them anyways... we fight all the time ... and so odoes the rest of my family they dont understand me what should i do?!
she doesnt like anything about me she wants me to change everything about myself but its just who i am i tried explaining to her but she just ends up yelling at me :(

im soo scared of her when she calls me it freaks me out and if she finds out i tell people all this she would kill me seriously...

like last time she caught me telling somebody this she said next time you do this im gonna throw you out of the house

Answer 1

I would not go so far to say that she does not like anything about you. She just wants the best for you even if it is just the way you dress. My mom was the same way when i was a kid (not that long ago, i am only 25) and i wanted docs also. I wore ripped up jeans that were baggy, long tee shirts, flannel shirts and boots. (the pearl jam grunge years) and my mom wanted me to wear cute skirts and dress more fashionable. It is true that parents just don't understand, but they do love you. As long as you are a teen living in her house you will but heads about your clothing, friends, music and everything else. If you don't get anything from this answer i hope you get this.... The minute you move out of the house to college (you better go to college) you will miss your mom so much and she will be your best friend. You will look back at your teen years and laugh about how you dressed and what you guys argued about. All parents hate the way their kids dress and it is because they are parents and that is what they are supposed to do. Don't take your mom's criticism so seriously and just do your own thing (when it comes to clothes). This will change as you get older. When you are a teen, no one understands you, you don't even understand you and that is perfectly NORMAL (or what ever that is) Just let it roll off your back and be yourself. It is good that you don't want to be like everyone else, it shows that you are an independent thinker that doesn't follow the crowd. The teen years are rough but just be happy that your clothing is all you have to worry about with your mom. Trust me, so many kids have it much worse. Your mom needs to understand that your clothing is not a reflection on her, but an expression of who you are and what you represent. She may be scared that you are trying to represent that you are a druggie (i hope you are not) but sometimes that is parents fears. You just have to be open with your mom and try to talk to her objectivly about what you wear and what you are doing and let her know that she should be thankful that you are only dressing like a druggie, heheheh, and not one. I am a mom myself to a 9 month old little boy and i love dressing him like a preppy little man and dread the day when he says he hates the clothes i pick for him and he wants a pair of docs (even though docs are cool) because he will be showing how grown up he is and he is not my little boy anymore. That is probably how your mom feels to. Hang in there for a few more years and you will be suprised how different your relationship will be.

Answer 2

First of all you have to understand your mom is telling you to take pride in the way you look because she cares about you. If she didn't she wouldn't say anything. She is right about what others think as we are judged on our appearances. I am not saying this is right but just a fact of life. You can express your individuality in different ways besides the way you dress. Write poems, songs, or stories expressing your feelings. You can do it with the way you dress but do it in a classy way that shows you care about yourself. You can be an individual and not conform to everybody else and still show you have respect for yourself and others. If you don't respect yourself nobody else will either.

Answer 3

Yeap,my mom just to be liked that,saying that I'm don't act like a girl,don'dress like a girl,she said i'm anything but a girl,but hey,I live for myself,not her,she don't understand which means that you should't give up the way you are.If you give up now,means that she will control the way of your living in the future.
Everyone can yell,just yell louder until she keep quiet

Answer 4

Age: Fifteen. Gender: woman Ethnicity: White/Australian variety of kinfolk in kinfolk : 5. kinfolk member’s a lengthy time period and genders: woman, 40 4. Male, 40-one (virtually 40 2). woman, 15. Male, 13. woman, 8 (virtually 9). a million)What are the numerous motives of conflict on your household- a)human being adjustments/personality c)ineffective verbal substitute (messages are misinterpreted) d)various Values (diverse morals/beliefs) 2)How do you make sure conflict - a)ignore it 3)How do you attitude conflict on your household: d) Aggressively (forceful, adverse and determined & expresses thoughts on the rate of others ) 4)The conflict many times leads to : a) assisting to relive rigidity and both activities experience more effective that its over b) Interrupted relationships c) Destroyed relationships and adverse consequences on people in touch 5)the outcome of conflict many times leads to: c) Lose-Lose ( both activities are literally not pleased with effect) 6)answer good the following- a. How are topics dealt with on your household? -- they're in a good number of cases not. b. Who deals with the topics? -- relies upon on the priority. c. Who do you flow to with complications? -- no human being. d. who's the numerous human being to reason conflict? -- Myself. e. Who tries to give up conflict on your household? -- no human being. f. Which make sure/father or mom contained in the kinfolk facilitates to remedy maximum individuals of the conflict topics? -- Neither. 7)Do you in a good number of cases walk remote from conflict? NO 8)Are complications pronounced contained in the residing house? NO 9)Is each and each and every kinfolk member's opinion considered formerly making significant judgements? NO 10) once you're in a conflict, do you in a good number of cases attempt to communicate it out? NO :)