I've been with my husband married for three years but alltogether about seven years and sex is just getting so boring that I dont even want to do it any more it seems like its always the same thing every time, any advice on how to improve my sex life
2006-11-14 14:23:09 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
talk with him about it . . . experiment . . tell him your fantasies and listen to his fantasies . . .
2006-11-14 14:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
maybe the answer of this guys work and here is something so NEW
ur routine and his routine now is begin so boring and u dont even like the sex or u don't hav patience 2 do this and that happened often so u r not the 1 and u will not b the last....
The answer is :
Go for a vacation alone and let him Go for a vacation alone 2 and the vacation must b at least 2-3 weeks .....and if u don't wanna go for a vacation go 2 ur parents or ur relatives and stay a month ,all this with out seeing him or seeing u......
and after this month is end back 2 each other and every thing will b just fine.....
becoz u gonna miss him so much like the days before marriage
Hope u find the answer
Khaled's
2006-11-14 14:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been through that (20 years married), for us it was finding new things that interested us both. That means you gotta talk about it, Even if its watching porn and watching his reaction to certain scenes/acts and asking him if he wants to try. Different rooms and positions work too, but theres only so many rooms in the house, eventually the same thing gets boring, and spicing it up a little sometimes can be scary, but only you know your limits of what you will and wont do. Maybe he's happy with it, so approach it carefully, you dont want him to get the wrong idea.
2006-11-14 14:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by theun4gvn9599 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeanette, I am sorry that you feel that way, sometimes these things happens to us and we wonder whether everybody else experiences life the same way as we do. The truths is yea we all do.
Here's the thing, we cannot keep doing the same thing over and over and expect changes. so we need to change how we do things!
Try new styles, try different location s go out a weekend for the two of you and do whatever you have always wanted to do.
Get sometime and talk over everything there is.
Remember life is not a a dress rehearsal, it is real and the clock is ticking. Enjoy overtime you can. It might be all there is or gonna be, so you might as well have fun.
2006-11-14 14:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by Trinity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
after only 7 years??
ok, so here goes (from my married life) you have to take the bull by the horns. TELL HIM YOU ARE BORED, in no uncertain terms. get wacky. go n dates again - like have him call you and meet for drinks. role play, get alittle kinky. was it good before (were you getting a few orgasms each time?) if not, some real education is in order. find out his fantasies, and tell him yours. (and you better have some if you're complaining about being bored. this is a two party deal.) sex is symptom. get the romance in your lives. do stupid things. and make sure you have your own lives. have some of your own friends to go out with, apart and together. just so you can miss each other, and have new stories to tell. take up some new things - go try learing to dance, working out, other physical stuff. sex is only a small part of a relationship, and stagnation in the bed room is usually indicative of a greater failure in the overall relationship.
2006-11-14 14:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by savgbst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deviate from the norm. Go to Barnes and Noble and buy some juicy sex books. In a marriage, you have to change things every once in a while to make sex fun again. Try costume lingerie and even wigs if your really feeling daring. My husband says he loves having sex with me now because it's like he's with a new person every time! (okay, too much information)
2006-11-14 14:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by wendy h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some couples are also having this feeling of sex is routine.
I suggest u both go for a short trip and enjoy and relax. Then talk to him about it. U both have to work on it. Try doing it in different places. different times and new posture. Don't let this feeling continue as it will affect yr relationships.
2006-11-14 14:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by Renew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the best tool of a relationship. Talk with your husband about the way you feel and be honest, let him know what your feeling and tell him you want to try different things with him. If you don't try things you won't know what you like, and if you don't like it you don't have to do it again, but the fun things are experimenting.
I hope things get better, and remember to communicate openly with him.
2006-11-14 14:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by lrc125 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about improving it. Just continue doing it boring as it may be. The day will come when he will have problems with erection and both of you won't have to do it.
2006-11-14 18:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a while you can get into a rut . yes try to spice things up be creative. See what you like and try it out on your hubby. im sure he won't freak out if he's normal lol.
Figure out what you would like to try or you have seen in porno's you like to do. or better yet have him watch one with you and you can do your own things from there.
Also check out the adult sex shops tons of fun stuff there to try on him. don't forget the swing set if you can afford it you can do tons of things with that one. and much fun too hehe.
Enjoy knock his socks off.
2006-11-14 14:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of the above points will prove helpfull. We all go through the same thing. Spice it up!
The Ol' Sasquatch Ü
2006-11-14 14:34:24 · answer #11 · answered by Ol' Sasquatch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋