should I interfere if my daughter is being abused by her husband?

Answer 1

yes you should, especially if they have children in the house. But, even if they dont you need to still pretect your daughter or at least try to.

Answer 2

That's a tough one, simply because if you don't interfere and something happens then you feel guilty because you didn't step in and if you do interfere you could cause alot of problems maybe making it worse. I feel sorry for you because I know what you are going through, I also have two daughters and one of my daughters was in that kind of relationship, she had two daughters at the time, and she finally got out of that relationship, but then she met another guy, who's twice as bad as the first. He wants her away from her family and she just had his baby. He has no job and has done nothing for her or the baby. I did voice my opinion about him and his treatment of her before she was pregnant and it caused a multitude of problems, and caused alot of hard feelings and resentment. I do not like him and I never will and I express it all the time. I will keep my eyes open and I will interfere if I feel I need to. I don't know if that's the right thing to do, but I don't want to look back and think I should have stepped in. I wish you luck and pray alot.

Answer 3

I don't understand how you could question this- YES. Go to her and talk with her. She has to be willing to get out of the relationship. You can't force her to leave. If you do, she'll just go back to him. Abusive relationships are a horse of a different color sometimes. If she's not willing to leave, there's really not a lot you can do to help her. I don't know if calling the police would do any good- a lot of times the abused person will end up defending the one who is hurting them. If she has children, I wouldn't care what she thought- they would be removed from the house. Children can't make decisions like this on their own- they need someone to protect them. If the parent isn't rational enough to do so, then someone MUST step in.

Answer 4

I am a mother, and I sure would! Even if my daughter didn't want me too. I didn't carry my daughter for 9 months, change her diapers, stand by her through school, and etc-to have ANYONE come around and abuse her! Men like that get the women brain-washed into thinking it's their fault he had to be nasty to them. It's a very detailed cycle Domestic Abused women go through. First chance I had, with proof of one ting mark, I would be calling the Police and filing charges. The state would file the charges, and put a restraining order. DV is a serious crime these days, and breaking a restraining order holds stiff penalties.Your daughters children will be next, believe me! Women and their kids are getting killed everyday....

Answer 5

how do you know for sure shes being abused? is he emotionally abusing her as well as fiscal abuse have you seen busies black eyes if so take pictures right away even if its on your cell phone proof is the key. and getting her safe is the other. if shes not ready to leave with out any type of proof it will be hard to get involved. and that's the point of getting involved you don't want to stir the pot if you don't have a plan that can be followed thru on. you do not want to make things worse it could be fa-tel for your daughter. call the DA in the county your daughter lives in and ask for suggestions as well , because if your daughter doesn't want to press charges the state will he\she will be able to tell exactly what needs to be done and how.

Answer 6

YES!!! Tell her you know what is going on. She may try to lie or hide it out of embarrassment. But persist. Tell her you are there for her. Ask how you can help? Get her into counseling? Help her get into a spouse abuse center? Phone her every night just for a chatty little mother daughter time (also gives you a chance to assess the situation without saying anything). Ride to church together on Sundays. She may meet a minister she will trust enough to confide in. Encourage her to spend time with her best girlfriend. Talk with a counselor at a spouse abuse center for ways you may be able to help her until she is ready to make the big step by herself. I wish you the very best of luck.

Answer 7

it wouldnt matter if you call the police if she takes up for him they could just walk away.You know how many times a wife or girlfriend has been killed the night after the police left or after many cases of calling and saying they were abused and when they get out of jail they just beat them up so bad some live some dont.Its a sad thing and I dont know what to tell you other than call a hospital and get some help from a support group of battered woman they will help you and hopefully your daughter .She could throw him out and call the police and file a restraining order but if hes that mean hell probably still go after her and shell be in fear .She has to make the choice whether she wants to live like that .You could say something to her and hope she will leave him.As for him I would say a few words to him to let him know you know what hes doing and your gonna put a stop to it !

Answer 8

Unfortunately, women think things will get better,...but he is sorry, ...he says he will change...the kids need him,....and the main reason,...I love him.

I met my friend, Melissa, at a shelter for battered women, where I ran to myself after being beaten up on the side of the road by my boyfriend after he just got done trying to run over me and my kids.

Difference between me and Melissa is I changed my life, learned about relationships, the right way, and got my priorities right.

Melissa went back to her husband probably 5 times. He put her in the hospital three times, critical condition. Kids went to foster care and are now scattered, he is in jail, and lets just say Melissa doesn't worry anymore about being hit. Someday, the kids will visit her grave.

Your daughter, well, is she going to go back over and over, like Melissa? It is going to be her choice. Try to get her to counseling, to church, to a support group....and maybe, she has been told that if she ever leaves, he will track her down and kill her....maybe she has fear.

You being there for her may be the key to change. Good luck.

Answer 9

Yes get involved, contact local law enforcement, contact local family agencies, get your daughter into a shelter. You will feel better knowing she is safer in a shelter than in your own home, law enforcement will normally respond faster to 911 calls from shelters then a normal resident. Think about it this way, ethier see that she gets to a shelter of start making funeral arraingments. Spousal abuse only increases as a general rule.

Answer 10

By all means YES!

The cycle of abuse must be stopped and you can save your daughters life.

Abuse escalates and never ends unless the abuser is isolated in prison or gets counseling.

Call your local domestic violence hot line, women's health clinic, doctors office, Emergency Room or local police.

Answer 11

YES!!!! If you don't who knows how far the abuse could go? Because if someone doesn't step in he might kill her.

She's your daughter, you should already know that as a parent that even when your kids are married, it's part of your paternal instinct to protect your children.