i am 13 and my bf is 16 we are have a baby together and after i told my parents and they had time to get over the shock then sayed that if we wanted to my bf could move in with us to help with the baby and everthing
I love him i really do but i just dont know if i am ready for that
will it change our relationship?
2006-11-14 14:15:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Call me weird, and everything, but honestly, when you have all your family living around you, including your boyfriend, that will help ALOT in raising a baby. You should always think of the consequenses, but don't hurt your baby, it is not the babies fault!! Just have as many people as you love around you and have the baby grow up with a dad. It will be realy sad when it realizes his/her mommy wouldn't let daddy come and raise them. It might turn agaist you as a teen. OUCH!
GOOD luck!
2006-11-14 15:12:06 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yikes what on earth are your parents thinking? It's bad enough you two were ever alone in the first place long enough to make a baby! Now they want you together 24-7? Why? So you can make another baby?
Girl think before you do this time!
Have your baby, finish school, grow up, and if you're still together after you both graduate high school, then get married and move in together.
2006-11-15 01:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People Please stop congradelating this kid on being pregnant She's only 13 sorry it sounds mean but other kids see this they are gonna think its ok to have a baby and its not when the are so young they are still babys there selves. In my opinion regardless if you are haveing a baby or not your still to young to have a guy live with you and if you were my kid he would be sitting in jail being 16 and you 13 I'm sorry but lil girls don't do that . I would tear your bottom up as well as him sitting in jail .I could go on and on but i'm not cause what's done is done you can't change that but I hope you take care of the baby and i hope you understand what ya'll have done to your lives . I agree with the other people make shure you stay in school and become somebody no matter what .
2006-11-14 15:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy to be!!! 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes it could change the relationship because you're too young to be even thinking of playing house with a guy who's barely old enough to care for himself let alone a baby. You guys should have been using protection, I can't stress this enough to teenagers if you want to play an adult game then you are officially ready to accept adult consequences. Your parents are not setting an example for you because most parents wouldnt allow that to happen because if you're not married there's no way you would be living under the same roof or sharing a bed. No it's not a good idea for your boyfriend to move in because that will encourage you guys to continue having sex and you could end up with another baby. Just because your body is ready for a baby doesnt mean you are emotionally, mentally, and financially.
You just snuffed out the rest of your childhood because of a choice you made to have unprotected sex. Love is a strong word because you and your boyfriend are teenagers you are not at that stage to experience actual mature adult level kind of love. Teens fall in and out of love all the time and it takes time and maturity to build that kind of feeling for someone. I am 31 and when I was your age I wasnt having sex I was too busy thinking about school and my friends to be getting serious with a boy so early. Your boyfriend is 2 years away from being legally an adult so by the time he turns 18 you'll be half way through high school and he'll already be in college.
You should seriously consider putting your baby up for adoption until you're able handle the responsibility of a child because it sounds like you're not ready to deal with living with the father let alone the responsibility of raising a baby. Your parents are not responsible for the mistake you made by getting pregnant at 13. Until you and your boyfriend are mature enough to handle a relationship and it's consequences you need to stop having sex and focus on other things than getting busy like adults when you're not even grown yet. Your boyfriend is 16 years old he's not ready to be a father yet, he's still a kid himself.
Seriously consider adopting your baby out until you and your boyfriend are mature enough to handle the responsibility and to give yourself time to finish high school and being kids. I don't know what it would take for teens to learn that you want to make adult choices, but they come with adult consequences.
2006-11-14 14:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I was your age when I had my kid. I am know 14. My bf is 16. My parents were really pissed and hated him before I told them. They wouldn't let him stay there it was so hard until his parents turned their basement into a mini house for us to live in. It was so hard the first year without him there but now it's a lot easier with him being there for me and the baby. Don't try it if he isn't there for you now, it won't work you have to do anything for each other for this to work.
2006-11-15 07:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jenilyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the saddest things I have ever heard. A 16 year old boy has no business dating a 13 year old girl, let alone moving in with her. I can't believe your parents think this is a good idea. Please, please please consider adoption. You have so much life to live before you will be ready to raise a child. You are right to have doubts about being ready for your boyfriend to move in. That would be a disaster.
2006-11-15 04:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by Tiss 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will change your relationship!! This is your choice, but does your bf want to?? Do you want to?? What about his parents? Do they want him at home? And, do you think having him living with you will help or just make it harder to raise your child? I hope this helps, and good luck with the baby!
2006-11-14 14:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by annie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my goodness....you are a child yourself!! Not a good idea for BF to move in...That's what you have supportive parents for! Lord knows what my parents would have done had that happened to me...Oh, wait, I didn't even know how to 'do it' at 13...
2006-11-14 14:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by spaceboy911 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well if you fight with each other than you and your bf might have some problems. And another thing if your parents are cool with him then they shouldn't have a problem. So it all depends on if you and your bf have a good relationship and how your parents get along with your bf.
2006-11-14 14:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by ♥SUMMERTIME♥ 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your relationship is going to change dramatically once the baby is born. You are so young! I don't think him moving in is a good idea, but who am I?
2006-11-14 14:17:49 · answer #10 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋