I wanna know this, cuz, im straight, and everytime i ask a fine girl out, they say no!, im tired of it. should i be bisexoual, or just stay straight and wait, u guys r my only help, i kinda like my friends too, they r guys, and i think if i tell any1, they wont like me, or they will not talk 2 me anymore, what should i do?
2006-11-14 13:55:52 · 28 answers · asked by Dafredrick C 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
hey bro,
aww man i feel your pain... your story kinda reminds me of some things ive been going though.. i used to be gay, and struggled with same sex attraction for years. But yeah anyway long story short, God delivered me, after I accepted Jesus in my heart, and He took the same sex attraction away, so that was about a year and a half ago, and ive been straight since then and will be straight for good :)
anyway yeah i know what it feels like to feel rejected sometimes... but hey just keep seeking God, and He will lead you to the ONE for you! I mean think about it, why waste your time on girls that dont like you , where there is that one waiting for ya.
anyway i hope that helps, stay straight man, thats my best advice. Liking guys isnt good, and its not all its cracked up to be in the end,.
God bless
2006-11-14 14:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 8⤋
well I kinda think u have no options here. I mean sometimes you have no choice to being a gay or a straight. To be honest to what u'r looking for and what's ur feeling. But if u really wanna know if ppl can shift to gay or not, well I have a friend who is straight before and he is gay now. So I kinda think this kind of ppl is called bi. There's nothing bad to be a gay or be a straight. so don't worry about you are not in a relationship now. I mean I'm single now too and I'm satisfy with it. After a long time feeling down I won't worry about relationship anymore god won't miss anybody, so think pro bro!
2006-11-14 15:24:47 · answer #2 · answered by Zac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your desire is to have sex, then,you have to go where you can have sex. Contrary to popular belief, many men and women decide to have homosexual sex for one reason or another on the spur of the moment. Very often people go out for a "good time" and end up doing things they find pleasurable. The real issue isn't whether they might be pleasurable, but whether you would enjoy the consequences.
However, despite how the world of advertising defines life as only possible with sex, it has a lot more to do with living than the sex act itself. I think it might benefit you to see your problem from a different point of view; what I am suggesting is that you see things not how you feel about them, but exactly how you think them through carefully. This, in turn, will give you more patience and easiness. If nothing else, women sense desperation quickly:)
It is unfortunate that the frustration of these things is so apparent to you in the beginning and for whatever good it does, you have my condolences. While boy/girl relations are difficult, they are worth pursuing in a natural fashion, should you have the desire to stay with it. Almost always, after a rough period, you will find your stride and begin to excel in social relationships. As with most things in life, the consequences of your decisions now stay with you for your entire life.
2006-11-14 14:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by Bentley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't decide to be gay, or bisexual. It doesn't work that way.
If you aren't interested in guys sexually or not attracted to them, you can't flip a switch and decide you can be bi or gay. If you happen to have those feelings already, then let time and thought guide you, and you'll find your way on your own clock, not something articial like not having a date.
And know this, we have the same problems straight guys do, we get turned down too,.
2006-11-14 14:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I really don't think you have a choice here. There is no way a Straight guy can suddenly just jump the fence because he has no dates today. If you have no dates, you are shopping in the wrong store. The world is full of lonely babes out there who would love to date you. Get out and find them. If you can suddenly just flip a switch and get it on with a guy, I don't think you were straight to begin with. Good luck
2006-11-14 14:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Being an openly bisexual man would decrease your chances of having luck with most women. Sorry, but it's true from what I see. There is a sort of hierarchy or pecking order regarding affectional preference:
1). Heterosexuals - both male and female heterosexuals are superior, or so it is thought, especially by most heterosexuals.
2) Bisexual Females (and that includes females that are only playing at being bi)
3) Lesbians
4) Bisexual Men
5) Gay men
So you see, claiming to be bi would take you down three rungs on the ladder. Stick to that world of heterosexual privilege!
2006-11-14 15:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by Angry Gay Man 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ummm.... don't try to be something you're not. I don't think that is going to make life your any easier. If you're straight you're not gonna enjoy being with other guys. Maybe you need to set your sights on women who have good personalities and who will like you for who you are rather than just going after women who are "fine". Looks aren't everything.
2006-11-14 14:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by Justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are nice & fun to be with. You should give guys a chance & see how they treat you. Or you might wait a long time till a very fine girl hits it off with you.
Truth is there are so many gays & lesbians who didn't do well with the opposite sex socially, then they found better acceptance &success with their own gender. so you won't be the first to do this either. It's wonderful & ecstasy to kiss a guy on his lips, to smell him, to caress him gently - to feel his body warmth upon you, to be close with him - to satisfy his desires & he satisfies your needs, too. You may not need to go girl hunting ever again.
don't make any announcement to your friends that you enjoy guys. But dress nice & look nice & some lucky guy will notice. And some guys will appreciate you much more than girls do
girls are spoiled rotten & pampered - they think the world OWES them something cause they're girls with a vagina. Well the world owes them NOTHING at all !!!! - Women want men to chase them, beg them for affection, spend $$$ on them, buy them gifts, worship them & adore them - make them goddesses, always say yes to whatever they want, & it's very unfair &one-sided. God did not set up this thing of men having to kiss girls' a-s-s-e-s. And I urge you to not be afraid of guys. I think they can love you & treat you with respect more than any girl.
You can keep one eye open for broads, but look around for the cute guys with nice personalities who can be your close boyfriends. Keep your options open - but you should really try guys and see how you like them. then you decide which way to go. And I believe you'll go for guys if you only give them a chance!!!
2006-11-14 15:24:38 · answer #8 · answered by blackbird 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you gay or just desperate for attention by anyone,male or female?im straight but know a few people who are gay and they wasnt questioning it,they said they just knew...so before you go jump on the sausage wagon figure whats goin on in your brain?because my friends say its a really hard life to live.and not eveyone is gonna be cool with it.
2006-11-14 14:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay as you are.be a straight guy and GOd will bless you.do you know what straight means? your is still straight and not bended downward!gays are bended downward cause everytime they have sex with the same sex they bend downward the penis!this make them gay or bowed down and lost of glory of normal guy.have agood day!
2006-11-14 15:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. The important is to try to be as happy as you can Gay or Straight!
Gregory
2006-11-14 14:21:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋