Okay me and my boyfriend, that is the problem. He is PERFECT. He is way against drugs, he is a virgin and not here for my body, he likes the same things I do, he loves his family, he don't care what other people think, he opens the door for ladies, he is a pure gentleman, he is adorable, the best personality EVER, he tells me he loves me all the time (and means it), he never worries about money and spoils me wild, and so much more.. The thing is, is he is rich. I never knew it until I went to his houses (his parents are divorced to he switches each week) Not a problem, but now I am too embarrassed to invite him over to my place, and I told him so, but he is urging me to invite him, but I wont. Our place is, disaster. That is the only word that can describe it. I love him, truly, and I don't want to seem mean, but I also don't want him to secretly think of me differently or a little bit less. I know that almost everyone on here has been through a lot and would probably give good advise.
2006-11-14 13:45:34 · 18 answers · asked by UrNightmare 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Girl, been there done that. Only thing is, is that my bf wasn't rich. He did all the things that you are speaking of and then some. I had 2 kids and one on the way when I met him. I said this is too good to be true. That man is my husband now for the last 17 years and he still excepts my messed up family and all of my faults and it seems he loves me more each day. Everybody says(my uncles, sister, brother, cousins,friends) that there is nothing that he want do for me. Even my kids says this. I am so glad I gave us a chance. Before we even got into a relationship good. I needed him to call me because I thought I was in labor. I stood by the phone and I was like "Please call me." I promise you that phone rung right that second. It was him. We are truly soul mates. It's still that way to this day. He still opens the car door for me and everything he did when we met and then some. What I'm trying to tell you is don't let little petty stuff such as where you live stop you from inviting him over. Girl, clean up freshen up and cook up. It's not where you live , but how you live. If you spend quality time in the right way enjoying a movie, playing a game, or just interesting conversation that's where he really wants to be. Don't deny him that. I mean you might as well get it over and see if he is really your knight in shinning armor. I think he is. Good Luck and GOD BLESS!!!!! P.S. I think you can change your screen name to Cindarella!(smile)
2006-11-14 16:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making a mistake. Not everyone in the world can be rich and he sounds grounded enough to realize that. A lady is a lady no matter what her environment. Since your Mom and Dad did a good job of raising you, I'm sure they will be more than adequate to meet your bf. Stop putting them down or he may start thinking that you are only after his money.
2006-11-14 13:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to yourself, he says he loves you. Let him know in advance that you are uncomfortable with bringing him home as you don't have the same financial resources, and you wish your place was as nice as his. Let him know that you are concerned and want to be honest with him, if not he may wonder whats up. You can share this with him being confident in your love for him and disregard the materialism, compliment him.
I think by telling him straight how high your respect for him is that he won't care where you live as long as he is a part of your heart.
Make sure your room and space is clean, he won't care near as much as your are imagining.
Good luck! Relax it isn't the furniture but the love in the house.
2006-11-14 13:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey I had the same problem, my house isn't the best lol, Why dont you have him meet your parents somewhere else? You could plan it if you want, or you can make it a surprise like tell your parents to go to the park and you and your boyfirnd show up. You'll be all like woah what r u guys doing here? Then he wont be thinking about going to your house and meeting your parents anymore
2006-11-14 13:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by [quarantine] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard if you make it hard---money does come between people, but be proud of who you are, and where you are. Many rich kids feel very inadequate because their parents have money---he might envy you because you're not rich. And, rich is a relative term. A happy family is something impossible to buy.
Invite him over, and don't judge him about something like money. Feelings and connection are much more important, and will last a lifetime.
2006-11-14 13:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like the way your home looks would really matter to him, he loves you and he will not like you less because of your home. He seems like a very nice guy, give him alittle credit I don;t think he is that shallow. Invite him over, if you are embarrassed about your home have your family pitch in and help straighten it up. He will not judge you because of your home.
2006-11-14 14:06:35 · answer #6 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what now is the time - either he excepts you for who you are or he doesn't. If he is as nice and genuine as you say he is than don't worry about it.
Also, you could tell him - you know I feel a little insecure about my home b/c my family is not wealthy like yours. You are very sweet but I just don't want to be judged.
He will probably make you feel more comfortable in your own home than you do by yourself.
Don't worry.
2006-11-14 13:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him and he really loves you it doesnt matter if you are not "rich". what happens if you met his parents and his dad was a total a**hole, would you think hey he is going to be like that too one day. it doesnt matter how you live as long as you guys are together. you love him for him and the way he treats you. if you invite him over and he acts weird and says something rude then you know it was never meant to be.
2006-11-14 13:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by gacountrygirly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just whenever you feel it is a good day in your household ask him over. The worst thing for you to do is not ask him over because then he will think you do not love him enough to have him over. He will feel left out and put down. that is not what any guy wants. trust me I know.
2006-11-14 13:53:35 · answer #9 · answered by nick l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
puh-lease! You better invite that boy in!!
He sounds very 'down-to-Earth'. and if you don't invite him in, I'm gonna invite him to MY house. Got it??
Abstinence is a WONDERFUL THING!! I hope he (you BOTH) stay that way!! till you marry!!
(but you won't marry till you get over a few things---like inviting him into your house!)
2006-11-14 13:48:51 · answer #10 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋