okay, I know that sounds silly... but its true. I currently have too many friends and I didnt really think there was such a thing untill recently... i keep getting invited to do stuff and I don't have time to go to everyones stuff. I am a mom and I work and I feel bad constantly turning everyone down... do you think its possible to have too many friends?? and what should I do now... dump them? even though I like them?
2006-11-14 13:41:47 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just say no and apologize. If they are friends they will understand, but you also must be a friend to them. You may need to cut a few ties and keep just a few close ones and the others can be aquaintences. Or you can have on big party a few times a year to make up for it. I have too much family, seriously. I can't possibly see them all as much as I''d love to. But I can't dump them either. My kids and husband come first. It's very difficult but it's the only way it will work. Have a great day. Wow, I think this is the 3rd question I answered of yours. Honestly I"m not stalking you. You are just where-ever I am. Wierd...
2006-11-15 04:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dump them! That would be a really horrible thing to do that could scar them for life. Don't dump them! But but hey, you don't need to go to everything you're invited to! It's totally okay to turn down invitations once in a while. Just say you are really tired and need some time alone. There. No feeling hurt and no big guilt on your part. But go to big things like graduations, marriages, baby showers, and esspecialy hardships, try to be there for them when they need it most. But when you're worn out, it's totally fine to turn down little invitations once in a while. If you need some more time alone, ask one of them to babysit your kids once in a while! Feel blessed to have so many friends!
2006-11-14 13:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by mandamandapanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Went thru same thing myself, had to actually set up a schedule and assign each friend a specific day to do stuff with them. And if they asked on a different day, I just had to tell them; hon, this is so-and-so's day, let me see what they have on plan. If nothing is happening for that person, I just say ok, we will make our day up some other time. Then I call the other person back and say ok, let play! Hope it helps you.
2006-11-14 13:46:29 · answer #3 · answered by whispy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard of detoxing? I read recently that getting rid of friends you're tired of or wear you down is a way to detox. Just taper off calling them, give polite excuses when they ask you out. Soon you'll have the space you need and will feel better.
2006-11-14 13:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by Taramasu2U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should organise a bbq at your place or something, one weekend, and invite them all over. that way you will show them that they are your friend, and you see them all in one go. time management!!! if you don't have time to see them all, give them a quick call every now and again, and if you still don't have time for that, send them text messages to let them know you are thinking of them. also, you could send them an e-greeting once in a while, or a card in the post is always nice.
2006-11-14 13:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by Katya M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres no such thing as too many friends. If they are your friends then they will understand that you are a busy person!
2006-11-14 13:45:25 · answer #6 · answered by Shylah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya...LOL It is possibile to have too many friends, well that want to do stuff with you... Lots of friends is a good thing though...But it is impossible to please everyone....Your real good friends will understand this and those are the ones who you should spend most of your time with...The other friends should be invited by you to join you and your real close friends out SOMETIMES.... If they dont want too well they can be I guess eliminated LOL...I guess
2006-11-14 14:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by 800 bound 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you do a girl's night out, once a month/week/biweekly and go with several of them at one time. Like all go bowling and out for dinner. Just be sure that they all have something in common to get along.
2006-11-14 13:44:55 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay just calm down. What you can do is go to a little of each thing or just take the first or the offer you like the best and stick to it.
2006-11-14 13:43:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're real friends, they'll understand that you're a busy woman. If they start harping to your face about how you never make time for them, or start talking behind your back about how a bad friend you are, dump them.
2006-11-14 13:44:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋