My relationship broke up in the middle of September.. She said she didn't want to be a lesbian anymore.. but I know that she is a weak person and the words she used when telling me.. weren't her own. We had been together for almost 3 years.. so I know her vocab. by now.. I love her more than anything and I want her back.. I have faith that she will come back.. but It's of course not a sure thing... should I wait for her? I don't want to date or anything right now atleast.. but I'm stuck. I don't know what I could do to get her back. I need help!
2006-11-14 13:40:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anna's Baby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't crowd her. And don't start dating again yet - you need some time to mourn first. If you see her, say hi and ask neutral questions like "how's work" but don't say anything about relationships, hers or yours. If you're casually friendly but not smothering, she'll feel free to tell you if she feels she made a mistake by breaking up. But if she snubs you or starts talking about a new love, then you really have to let her go. You can't force anyone to love you if they have stopped feeling that way. The best you can do is leave the door open a crack so she can come back if she realizes she wants to.
2006-11-14 13:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by Maple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one reason or another, she wants to move on with her life, and it looks as if that does not include you. She may have been trying to let you down the easy way, but there is no easy way in this stuff. Close off that chapter of your life and move on to find others in time. If you wait for what will not happen, you will stagnate in the pool of life. There is no reason to do this. You are young, you are pretty. Give life a chance. You will find who is right for you, and this girl had the grace to tell you it was not her. Love is a two way street, and if it does not flow from both, it can only bring pain. Cheer up, life is just starting for you. Good luck
2006-11-14 21:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that it ended up like this. I would give her time to let her think what she really wants in life. You said you don't believe that those were her words, who do you think they were? Has her family or friends been trying to pull her away from you? I sometimes tell myself that I don't want to be gay anymore because my kids are against it. I really hope that she follows her heart, and that she'll come back to you. I wouldn't date anyone else for the time being. I say wait till the new year kicks and see what happens. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-11-14 22:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by fairyjin1971 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don;t wait go on with your life. as you said she's weak so this time she comes back but what about the next time she gets the urge or gets weak again. You don't need someone that wishy washy and all over the place. You want something you know that will stand for something. she sounds like she will be in and out of your life.
i'd think twice
2006-11-15 01:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am kinda going through the same thing, except it was 11 years and i dont think she knows what she wants... at this point we are remaining friends and i am hopeful, but if she wants to move on i am willing to let her do so. for now you need to just step back and make sure that you are giving her her space. let her see, either one way or another what she wants. if its over, then take some time for yourself and move on, if you really think there is a chance, then let her decide. you cant make someone love you and you cant make someone into something they are not, if she's not gay, then maybe she is not or is just confused and wants to explore other options. either way, space is the best thing right now.. and time...
2006-11-14 22:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by badazzbabybutch69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once a person leaves a relationship they DO WANT OUT. I think you need to let this go for her sake and you need to seek happiness elsewhere. Let it go
2006-11-14 21:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a hobby to get involved in and take your mind off things - and let her go...she made a decision, accept it.
2006-11-14 21:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
darling!!!!!!!!!!no one in the world can bring love back....it has to come by itself......I am sorry you are hurt,but give it time it will heal.you can find some one who will give you the same love you are offering to this women!!!!!!!!!!!!!!trust me no it hurt leave her alone if it is a true love she will come back to you.....good luck.
2006-11-14 22:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by Jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on and get you self a hot guy boyfriend
2006-11-14 21:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by lil_brat93291_559 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Move on .... it's time to find a new babe.
2006-11-14 21:44:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋