i have been with the mother of my child for 7 years, our child is 4. the relationship has fallen apart. it needs to end
2006-11-14 13:40:28 · 10 answers · asked by brian m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just sit down and tell her that your relationship is not working out. Having two functional parents separate is better than having one dysfunctional parents together.
You need to stay cordial for the kids sake - it would also help if you weren't leaving the relationship for someone else.
Good luck
2006-11-14 13:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is no way to do that unless she is wanting to end it also. Are you the only one that feels it has fallen apart and needs to end? Are you tired of being a full-time 'husband' and father? Being single and only a part-time dad (if that even) is so much more appealing to most men than sticking it out and working on an existing relationship. It may sound appealing - ditching the family, that is - now but you will regret it down the road. It may not be for a couple of years but it will happen. And it will be too far gone to be reconciled then . . . there would never be any trust at that point.
Is your girlfriend abusive (other than the usual not enough sex carp)? Is she a bad mother? Have you tried couples counseling and learning to communicate? Unless all other avenues have been exhausted the harm you will do to her, to your child, and to yourself will be beyond repair.
2006-11-14 14:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
brian m : So; you fathered a child, who is now , 4 years old, your relationship has hit rock bottom and you want to "end" the relationship - right? My question to you is this. Who is going to be the father of your 4 year old child when you walk out ? Disposable diapers, disposable coffee cups, napkins, plates, cameras, batteries and now ... children ? !!! What kind of guy are you? You donate the sperm and just take off when things get tough ? A bit selfish - perhaps ? Life is all about you? What about the child? What an excuse for a guy ... maybe in Iran or Iraq ... !!! Poor girl who ends up with you !
2006-11-14 13:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you tried counselling, as sometimes that will help a relationship get back on track?
Sadly your friendship will be down the tube, cos bitterness will take over believe me unless you both want relationship to end...
Responsibility for the financial aspect of bringing up your child is yours so you will need to keep a reasonable friendship at the least ,as having access is most important...
Sadly the child is the one who suffers most...good luckâ¥
2006-11-14 13:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way to break up with someone that you have a child with . The children are the ones we have to worry about . They are the ones who must not suffer if mom and dad can't live together .
2006-11-14 13:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is probally no way to leave without harming the freindship.....What is will be broken....and then you will have to see (in time) what kind of relationship (freindship) if any you build in the future. People dont understand that you cant change something and expect it to be the same ...it's not going to happen.
2006-11-14 14:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO,
WELL I SORTA DID WHAT YOUR WANTING TO DO BUT I DID IT ALL WRONG AND JUST LEFT
WITH THE KIDS AND WENT 100 MILES AWAY....THE HING YOU NEED TO ASK IS IF I LEAVE IS SHE GOING TO RESINT ME????BECAUSE I DO HATE TRUELY HATE MY EX AND WE WERE ABUSIVE TWARDS EACH OTHER.....AND YOU NEED TO ANALIZE THE WHOLE SITUATION AS A MAN ARE YOU LEAVING BECAUSE YOU WANT SOME ONE ELSE.....DID YOU FALL OUT OF LOVE OR ARE YOU STILL IN LOVE AND HAVE NO FEELINGS DUE TO THE WAY YOU GET ALONG WITH HER?????7 YEARS IS A LONG TIME I LEFT AFTER 6 AND IT STILL HURTS TO SEE HIM EVERY OTHER WEEKEND FOR OUR DAUGHTER.....SO YOU NEED TO SIT DOWN AND THINK ABOUT EVERY THING AND WHAT YOU CAN DO TO HELP AND IF SEPERATION IS THE ONLY ANSWER THE SO BE IT.....SHE WILL HAVE A MEAN STREAK FOR A LONG TIME BUT IT COME WITH HEALING AND SO DOES EVERY THING ELSE....TAKE YOUR TIME AND ANALIZE EVERY THING THAT YOU CAN TO SAVE IT BUT IT WILL BE VERY HARD IN THE BEGINING....GOOD LUCK
2006-11-14 13:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres no easy way hun. sorry, but u do share a bond and she needs to be sure and clear that u wanna take a part of your childs life still
2006-11-14 13:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my heart goes out to your baby girl! I also pray her mama doesn't start dating a child molestor next after you walk out.
2006-11-14 13:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So end it, but don't even think that the frienship will continue. You can have your cake, but you can't eat it, sorry.
2006-11-14 13:43:25 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋