My sister doesn't like my girlfriend of 6 months. Is there anything i can do to make my sister like her more? What should i do, because this relationship looks to be very serious, and i need my sister to accept her.
2006-11-14 13:37:25 · 18 answers · asked by pigskin_player2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK saw your other question and have to answer this one also. Great thing I was told a long time ago....Your sister needs to understand (and you too) that you are NOT going to grow old with your sister, when you marry this girl you WILL grow old with her. I am not big on my sons fiance BUT she makes him happy and they will probably be together for the rest of their lives. I am going to grow old with his father and he will grow old with her. You need to prioritize. If you make your sister a problem she will become one. She will take the ball and run with the fact that she has some POWER over YOUR life, and your girlfriend will feel that she plays SECOND to your sister.. Not good.
2006-11-18 07:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by ஐAldaஐ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depending of how stubborn your sister is that's a tough one. You can have a serious talk w/ your sister. "Listen sis I really like this girl and you are my family I love you I need your acceptance w/o it I just can't do it" something like that, maybe she doesn't think it's serious you need to talk to her about it. She can't read your mind. I'll give you the key: COMMUNICATION is the answer mostly to everything. Keep nagging her all the time tell her how much is upsets you, bothers you, how often it is on your mind. I'm sure you sis will come around! Just talk to her about it! But make sure hse knows your serious about this talk not just a convo that just came up let her know you even thought what to say. I hope this helps! Good luck man! Family stuff is always hard... but it's so doable!
2006-11-14 21:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Dispirited 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know the reason your sister dislike your girlfriend? If you don't, ask her. Honestly, you can't make your sister accept her. Talk to your sister and get her to understand that your girlfriend is the person you have chose to be in your life. Explain to sister that girlfriend makes you happy etc. Also let sister know that you love her and she will always be her sister.
2006-11-14 21:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by Who me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with your sister and ask her why she doesn't seem too happy with your girlfriend. Have an open mind and don't go on the defensive because the whole idea is to get her opinion.
After getting her response, try to maybe, "patch things up" and organise a girls day out for the two of them. Add in a neutral girl for the outing. If all goes well, have them two go out together more often.
2006-11-14 21:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by xxon_23 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask your sis why she doesn't like your gf. 1 you can't make her like her. 2 your sister does not have to accept her. the most you can ask of her is to be civil and kind to your gf just as she would a stranger.
My longest friend, dislikes her bro in law and her 2 sis in laws. Without details she is jealous of the relationships they are taking away her siblings and she's 39 and single and very lonely.
2006-11-14 21:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you need your sister to accept your girlfriend? yet at the same time you might want everybody to get along so the family is happy most of the time. the decision is up to you. you need to take a good, long look at yourself - are you able to be with your girlfriend without family? or does family sound better to you. i don't know you or anything about you. so this will have to be my answer.
2006-11-14 21:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by rubyred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that your sister is schizophrenic and does not like her other self. It is her way of dealing with the insest thing.
Sorry a bad joke there. Serously your sister may be jealous of your girlfriend. Just spent time with your sister, and don't even bring up the subject until your sister does. Explain this plan to your girlfriend so she does not get jealous or lonely. Then gradually wean your sister off the attention.
2006-11-14 21:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't make your sister accept her.
Go to your sister and ask her why she hates your girlfriend so much. There may be something more to the story. Until you go crazy, talk to her.
If this relationship is looking to be serious, then it's between your sister and your girlfriend, not you.
2006-11-14 21:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Obviously your sister is important to you (us sisters always like to be important :). Its nice you care so much about your sister and want her approval. Have you spoken to your sister and asked her WHY she doesnt like your gf? Theres nothing you can do yourself to make your sister like your gf - thats totally between them (you are just the meat in the sandwich). However, you can speak to your gf and tell her how much you value your sister and want them to get along. Ask your gf to make a bigger effort (like get them to go to lunch or shopping together) and explain to your gf how you see a future for you together but you need to get the sister/gf on track if this is to be long term. Give your sister a hug for me :)
2006-11-14 21:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u got to tell ur sister to accept the fact that u like this girl very much and that she should at least be suppostive.... what do ur parents and other sibling think about this relationship????.if they like were its going then no need to be upset ur sister doesnt like her... but if ur whole family doesnt like her consider.... having some family talking too!! good luck :)
2006-11-14 21:40:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋