how to i tell my roomate that i don't like her?

Question

i guess my roomate and i just have "inreconcillable differences," so should i tell her what's been bothering me? or just leave it alone?

Answer 1

tell her what has been bothering you, she just might not be aware of it, and perfectly willing to change that behavior. I did that to my roomate, just tell her what's wrong and she will like it because you are fostering an honest relationship, instead of just leave her and give her no reason for why, which might ultimately upset her.

Answer 2

For everything that's bothered you about her behavior... guess what she's probably been bothered by you ! Don't know how long you've been roommates but I do know that as women you can agree to sit down and discuss the issues. Approach it in a concerned manner & treat her like you would a sister...don't be attacking . If you leave it alone you're still going to be bothered by it. So, it's best to be a brave room-mate and speak up. Pick the right time for both of you and remember it could be a win -win handle with care.

Answer 3

Just burp and fart a few times in her presence. She'll move out pretty fast! Ok seriously, when she is in a good mood (or you can't take it anymore) use a few I statements.

"I really don't like it when you... this or that." Then maybe add "what can we do to solve this?" Another good thing might be to verbalized two good qualities about her then use the I statement.

On the upside, you will relieve some stress and the situation might change. On the downside she might get hostile and/or insult you. Can you live with it if the situation got worse? Such as you two igore each other?

Try to admire a few things about her; perhaps she has a lot of willpower, studies a lot or is independent. Find something you can respect her for and try to get her to open up.

Many times I prejudged someone as "difficult" "boring" or impossible to get along with. Then after accidentally getting them to open up, I found out things about them that changed my whole perception.

Good luck!!

Answer 4

If you don't want to live with her anymore because of your personality differences, tell her, but do it nicely. Remember the golden rule. Maybe you could say something like, "It's a good thing that there's different personalities and opinions in this world that make this world so exiting and colorful. But I think because of our differences, it would be best for both of us if we didn't share the same roof anymore."
If she really bugs you but you don't want to separate, than confront her nicely and try to work things out between the two of you. Make up a compromise that will make both of you happier. Do something that'll make living with her easier, but remember the golden rule!

Answer 5

move out, or suggest you find different places, but you have to end it. you don't have to say in detail about not liking your roommate, but kindly say its not working and think its better you go seperate ways. if you keep putting up with it, there WILL be an explosion that won't go well, so get out while the gettin's good.

Answer 6

OK, first of all, no way should you tell her you don't like her. I mean, put yourself in her shoes - how would you feel if she told you she didn't like you?? If you don't like her, it doesn't mean you have to hang out with her. Just back away gently, in a nice way.

Answer 7

if you are sure the differences are irreconcilablethen it is best to move out while the going is good ,hurt feelings will make things worse,so pack your bags & soon.

Answer 8

Just tell her for crying out loud, put it all out on the table...

Answer 9

leave it alone

Answer 10

kick her in the shins