seperated now but was married 24 yrs he cheated and left........what i want to know is this........after so long married...we had our ups and down but for the most part happy or so i thought....i always kept lines of communication open.......i always tried to talk about everything or anything that might have or been wrong....we have 4 children together ranging in ages from 20 to 10......anyway when this affair happened it really broke my heart when we spoke he said i will do whatever i need to make this up to you well when push came to shove that wasnt the case he wouldnt quit his job you see his job is where the girl he had the affair with began so understand why this was a point for me..anyway after all these years he feels absoulutly no guilt no remorse obviously no respect...how is this possible from someone i spent more then half my life with he lives with this girl now its been 7 months and still my heart hurts..oh by the way he is 42 this girl is 21 and its not money driven
2006-11-14 13:24:30 · 8 answers · asked by kelly h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Damn that sucks for you! Kick him out of your life and keep him out! He'll get his soon enough. Just dont let him worm his way back into your life.
2006-11-14 13:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by Queen Burn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep its not money driven all right......its a 21 year old body driven. Which means he's a shallow selfish flaky bastard having a mid life crisis. No real man deserts his family like that just to have some young hot booty. If he truly showed remorse I'd be all for a second chance, but he's shown his true colors, time has pased, and he hasn't realized what an idiot he has been. Its hard but you need to get rid of him and move on with your own life. He will regret his choices someday, and who knows, real true love and happiness might be around the corner for you!!
2006-11-14 21:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by alwayslarat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes your hart is going to hurt, he pulled your hart out and handed it back to you, and went on his way. you are still in love with him for you are still wanting everything to be back to the way it was prior to his cheating, and this aint going to ever be. have you talked to him after he moved out ? seems that even if you have you need to start thinking like the rest of the world that its over and begine the process of closing this chapter ind start wrighting the next. start by sitting down and getting all of your question in your head answered by him, this is a big proplem with ones that have been cheated on, you all need to know the why's, and the when's and you allready know the who's, but are you sure that it was just one? ask everything and if he has any to ask of you be 100% honest with him and he may give you the same back. don't trun this into a yelling match or try getting him back, if he wants that he know where you live, he may even have a key, you need to get this back too, it'll show him that your moving on with your life, this may trip a light on in his head wnowing that your not going to be home waiting for him.
after you have parted ways with him your will start to see the light at the end of the tunnel and every new day will bring new thing and prople into your life, take it one day at a time. your going to be a better person from this and there are a lot of men out there that will treat you as their queen and give you what you want out of a relationship. but you need to end your relationship with your husband first. remembering that your starting to walk down a path and its not going to be easy, and don't think your walking it along, for thats why it's a path.
2006-11-14 22:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's showing no remorse or regret, why are you allowing him to "rent space in your head and heart"? You are allowing these feelings of despair, sadness, and a broken heart to continue. You are chosing to feel this way.
You need counseling to help let go of him so you can move on and be happy.
2006-11-14 21:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by moniquebell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mid life crisis is an overused hippie, candy-@ssed excuse for bad behavior. It isn't real, it isn't clinical, it's total B.S. The fact is you married a total piece of sh*t. Now he's gone. Sorry....
2006-11-14 22:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are all sorts of people. He is a cold heartless one. The only tiny revenge that might get him is that his children sever ties with him.
2006-11-15 03:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is having a midlife crisis. I hope you get a lot of money out of him!
2006-11-14 21:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by weswe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish him good luck and say good bye and start your life over without him.
2006-11-14 21:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋