So me and my friend have been friends for a year in dec. We started to like each other back in may, and we went out, and broke up in july. I was heart broken when he broke up with me...& afterwards we were still friends, b/c i didn't want to lose him, he ment a lot to me. We were best friends...
Now he has a new gf, and he gives her all of his time, plus he has a job, etc. He has time for her friends...but he's forgotten about his "best friends." Today he asked me if i wanted to hangout, cuz we havent in such a long time. & we needed to talk. He said that he missed me. But he told me to forget him, b/c he doesn't want me to get hurt again...& he doesn't think he can change, so that he can notice me and give me attention, and hangout with me, etc. He says he cares about me a lot tho. I rele don't understand him...if he cared about me that much, then he wouldn't give up our friendship, b/c of his gf...& they've only been together for 5 weeks.Please help!! I don't know what to do anymore.
2006-11-14 13:14:01 · 8 answers · asked by muzicisrocko 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think he's a great enough friend to tell you exactly what he's feeling. He cares about you, and enough to know that he doesn't want to make you hurt again. You need to understand that he won't be around with you forever. Make some other friends, but never give up your friendship with him. Leave him with his girlfriend and just be as carefree and happy as ever. He's not the end of the world. Maybe you'll get even closer someday.
2006-11-14 13:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by Rawr_Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do dear! I know that you are confused and even hurt by this but he is only letting you know that he doensn't want to hurt you any more than it has and that is why he talk to you in the first place to let you know this... Understand he cares for you enough to let you go and that is what he is doing when you broke up that is just what it was and there is nothing that can really change that now...He has made his choice and is going on with his life and I suggest that you do the same...Cherish the memories and go and move on and try to find a new life for you that will make you happy... Even though he has been with this girl for only 5 months evedently he must feel something for this girl if he is telling you these things...So don't me angry at him he is simply doing what he has to do to keep you from hurting yourself more...
2006-11-14 21:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This didn't happen to me but I can say one thing. The decision you took is a good one because, if he doesn't change, you would suffer another heart ache. Even though he has been with her for only 5 weeks, what he feels for her might be stronger than what he feels for you.
You'll get over it in time. Good Luck!
2006-11-14 21:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by mads 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you two broke up it was over. you were trying to hold on to something that was not there. that is why he is letting you down easy. he knows how you feel and like he said forget about him and move on. he did. he was your best friend. you were an acquaintance to him. so do as he says and put the torch out. find someone new.
2006-11-14 21:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a really messed up story. i know it would be hard but try to find some of your other friends to hang out with. let him go do his thing, my guess is that he will come crawling back in the end.
2006-11-14 21:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by thinkofmealwayslver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know for a fact it hurts, but let him go so you can go on with your life in time it will get easier. But you will always remember him so keep it in good terms not bad ones.
2006-11-14 21:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to be your friend and does not want you falling in love, distance yourself, you'll only get hurt in the end...
2006-11-14 21:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD HAVE GREAT ADVICE!!!! if that ever happened to me. HAHA jk. good luck w/ that. he ditched you b/c he has no intrest in u watso ever. its hard to ecept but FACE THE FACTS. HE DITCHED YOU FOR SOME BETTER LOOKIN CHICK. and hell i would to.
2006-11-14 21:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by pimpin_ed_92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋