my uncel died a little while ago and i still cant get happy. everything seams to have no reason no importance. i want to get back to being a normal 14 year old girl but it is not getting easer for me. im woundering if is beacuse i never really siad good bye to him and i feel bad i never cried for him. there is so much i wish i could change. will you guys help me im so miserable i wish i would have died with him. why me i mean everything in my life was awsome a never lost any one else before him then he died and it turned my whole life around. how can somthing as small as that affect my whole life. im not one to tell people my feelings im much to shy. but i just want to be normal i feel like im crazy. any help would do so much for me .
2006-11-14 13:01:50 · 6 answers · asked by sk8erhjk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's very sad and traumatic when we lose someone we have known for that long. But to say that you wish you would have died with him is so wrong. Just imagine the sadness that your parents would have had to endure if they lost both a relative and a daughter. Grieving takes time and there are stages to it which include denial, anger, resentment, acceptance etc. Talk with your parents or a counsellor for a start and if you can go visit his grave site and talk with him and let him know that you are sad that he has passed and that you miss him greatly. But also tell him of the good things that you have planned and that you want to devote some of this goodness in his name. Hopefully his spirit will be present and you will leave the grave feeling much better after wards. Make your uncle and family proud and continue to live your life as a happy 14 year old, this is what your uncle would have wanted also. Good luck getting back on track.
2006-11-14 13:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing anyone close to you is very very difficult. You need to think of it this way, even though you lost him, he is in a much better place and probably watching over you. You need to understand that he knows how much you loved him and is smiling down on you. You can't change the past you can only learn from it. If you do that you will grow from it. You need to understand that your misery will pass, it just may take a while.
2006-11-14 21:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by cosmo88_7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,,, your young and this is probably the first person you are related to that passed away....
It is not something that you have experienced before and you are having to learn something new,, That No One Lives Forever here !!!...
This is something you will have to face in your life from now on, so the best remedy that I found was to give things Time,, it heals all wounds !!!!
good luck
2006-11-14 21:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all everyone dies-u know that-and i wouldnt really know how u feel cuz i have never lost anyone...but u have to let urself cry and dont hold it in..and best of all tell someone(other than the ppl on this site) how u feel. like tell ur mom or someone close that u feel comfotable with...u can even cry with them after awhile i guarantee u will get better and yes there will be times where u will remember him and start to cry but remember things like this happen to everyone and its just normal to be sad.
2006-11-14 21:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Tonia K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your loss. I can relate since I just lost my Dad. I know what you mean about everthing lacking importance. It's almost like what's the point. Everyone keeps telling me it takes time or that time heals all wounds. What I don't understand is How Much Time? I do know eventually things will be ok.
2006-11-14 21:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by ace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its very hard to dwell on the past and unforuntaly theirs nothing you can do about it now, try to think of the good time you had with him. try going and and doing things fun to keep your mind off of it. i promise you will heal within due time
2006-11-14 21:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by bshelby2121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋