I’m already engage with my girl friend, but now I’m still jobless, I will only work next year in January.. now she wants me to married her as soon as possible what should I do?
2006-11-14 12:50:25 · 16 answers · asked by juan l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't get married- love does not conquer all.
2006-11-14 12:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
juan: Don't become married, until you have your education and are financially prepared to pay bills etc. A happy marriage begins with "build your barn before you plant your crop". Money issues are in the top 3 reasons for divorced couples. (Yes; it is THAT important.) What if a baby, unexpectedly, becomes a member of the family ... how are you going to support it and your wife ? You would be wise to wait ! Marriage isn't something you just "do" ... it is part of who you ARE as a person. You want the best for both, your wife and family ... this requires education and a good job, not a bad education and a poor-paying job. This world today, it is imperative to have education [training] - a MUST!!! Good luck to you "juan" !!!
2006-11-14 21:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you want to be secure in life before you move ahead because you want everything to work out and want to make sure you can support her because she shouldn't be the only one working and you would feel better if you were both doing it together.Ask her to wait another month til after you start working so you can give her the things she wants in life.Ask her what kind of wedding she wants and tell her you want to be able to help with it financially but can't til January.Or just take the plunge and go to city hall and get a marriage certificate and get married by the justice of the peace.Good Luck :)
2006-11-14 21:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is she willing to support you financially from now til next year? If she does, and won't want you to repay her for supporting you, then go ahead and marry her. Let her pay for all the wedding expenses which she should not ask your to repay since she is the one who wants it now.
If not, then wait til you have the job and the money.
2006-11-15 03:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work 40 hours a week every week of the year...my wife and I enjoy a modest living as she works too...I would suggest you seek full time employment even if you decide not to get married...this solves financial burdens and makes you a productive member of society...which is a positive thing...
2006-11-14 20:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get married, and then get to work in January. Why do I always have to point out the obvious?
2006-11-14 20:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is the hurry? You sound like you are not sure if you should. If you have any doubt, just tell her that you want to stick to the original plan. Marriage is hard enough.
2006-11-14 20:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by weswe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she pregnant? why would she in a hurry to get married?..Talk to her. Love does not live on fresh air. You need lots of commitment and family planning ie job security for bread, kids planning etc....
2006-11-14 20:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your age, you have years and years to be married. What's the rush? She can wait a couple more months.
2006-11-14 20:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by moley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you haven't told us if she has her own source of income which she wishes to share with you until you start work,even if she sees a rosy picture right now,pretty soon money is going to pose a problem,the best bet is to wait for financial stability & the self cofidence that comes with it . good luck.
2006-11-14 21:01:50 · answer #10 · answered by dee k 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Explain to her that you're not financially stable at this time and that if she truly loves you, she'll wait until you've got the money for a wedding.
2006-11-14 20:53:04 · answer #11 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋