My BD is crazy.we are not together in any kind of way.but yet he feels that every time he drops the baby off he needs to spend the night.I have said several times that we are both adults and I dont need an escort.then he replies So what I want to be around my son I can stay here.We never were in a relationship together.it was a homie,lover,friend kinda thing.
What can I do I dont want to have him at my house????
2006-11-14 12:43:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Ask him to pay rent, pay for the groceries, the light bill etc for all of the days he stays!!!
I agree with the other answers. Have him meet you somewhere other than your house. If he tries to follow you back to your house, go to your parents or a friends instead of immediately going back home. If you seem unavailable, maybe he will get it through his head that you and him are no longer together.
If it is impossible for you to meet him somewhere, have one of your friends or a parent stay with you on the days that he drops off the baby. Maybe with their presence you can tell him, "oh I'm sorry but I have company you will have to leave now".
Stay strong and firm with him that way he does not become confused about your intentions with him.
Good Luck to you!!!
2006-11-14 13:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by jns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick another location besides your house to drop the baby off. If he still insists, tell him that while you understand that he wants to be around his son, you do not have a relationship and you don't want him staying at your house. If he doesn't get the message have a restraining order put out on him, so that he can say, drop the baby off, but isn't allowed on your property. You have a right not to have this man in your house/life if you are not in a relationship. Whether he wants to spend time with his son or not!
2006-11-14 13:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, that is your place and you are allowed to have who you want over and those you don't want at your house you have the right to tell them no. Why not try this, when he comes to drop the baby off, the 1st time calmly tell him that you are not comfortable with him spending the night at your house. If that doesn't work, then start meeting him outside to get the baby and if all else fails and you ask him to leave and he doesn't I would tell him that I am going to call the police. Try and see what happens and keep me informed.
2006-11-14 13:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Johnson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he spends the night is he trying to sleep with u? if he is he probably thinks that since you have a kid together that he can hit it anytime he wants which you should tell him then that you and him are not together and dont give him the idea that can be with intimate with you. If he is really trying to stay there for his kid then set up some guidelines and just straight up tell him that you don't want him staying the night.
2006-11-14 12:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by gloriousnina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I intensely dislike (my mom reported do no longer use 'hate') the entire toddler mama/toddler daddy component. it particularly is rooted in irresponsibility and chaos jointly as a baby suffers. stay faraway from the entire mess! it particularly is extra helpful to have not have been given any guy in any respect than one that is often on the prowl for yet another toddler mama to improve his ego. And specific, this is the worst threat of all, which you will improve into one extra 'toddler mama' to characteristic to his chain, that's his existence's purpose.
2016-10-22 02:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't invite him to your house. meet him at a neutral place like his parents house. have him to pick your kid up from the baby sitter or just drop the baby off. Try telling him again how you feel maybe your to passive! be stern with him and let him know that yes we do have to deal with each other for at least the next 18 years and that you want to keep things civil so please stop trying to push himself on you!
Guys always want to have their cake and eat it too! well most of them anyway. You just got to let him know that it's not that kind of party!
2006-11-14 12:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by Bunnie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am a father of 3 and at the beinning i whanted to be with my son and his mother, after you fill the love of a son ,its hard to go away from hem.maybe he want to be with you and you dont want, but remenber that thing changes, all you got to do is dont let hem in then, if thats what you want, tell hem the way you fiel, about hem staying in the house
2006-11-14 13:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by hill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...you have a situation on your hands. Either go pick up your baby or meet him at a different location. He probably does it to have a check into whats going on in your life. He has his own life, and you should have yours. Dont give in to him, girl.
2006-11-14 12:48:21 · answer #8 · answered by prudentzeta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet him somewhere else with the baby.
2006-11-15 03:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by Lil' Foot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet him somewhere to pick up your baby, somewhere not close to your house, so he doesn't have the option!!
2006-11-14 12:46:05 · answer #10 · answered by mommyx3 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋