My husband and I are both 29 years old and we have been married for two years. Our sex life together has always been very active. We have sex about 15 to 20 times a week. I have absolutely no complaints about this. I have always felt completely satisfied. Lately, however, my husband's sex drive was quadrupled! I can no longer put up with him. He has been like this for almost a month now and I can't find an explanation for his odd behavior. It is like he just can't get enough. The last two days we have had sex a total of 19 times to the point that I have been so sore in my private areas I have not been able to pee normally. It also feels uncomfortable when I walk. My husband is great and I am madly in love with him and I just love to have sex with him but I don't know if I can handle it now or even how to approach him with this problem. I don't want him to get hurt or feel rejected in any way but I am really concerned about our relationship and his recent odd bevavior. Any suggestions?
2006-11-14 12:39:29 · 13 answers · asked by StP 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, he is not a porn addict. In fact, he is a very normal and down to earth guy. He has no addictions of any kind. And yes, we do work, LOL. He is an engineer and I am a teacher. Our sexual encounters go on for several late night and early morning hours and almost the entire weekend. Thank you for your help.
2006-11-14 12:56:27 · update #1
I am a therapist and I know exactly what you are going through. I have treated many couples with this problem. Fifteen to twenty times a week is a bit excessive and that places you guys in the top 5% statistically. It is 100% humanly possible and normal to have sex many times a week as you describe. Now, what is not normal is that by doing so you submit your body to great discomfort. Sex is meant to be an enjoyable experience. If 15 to 20 times a week is not enough for your husband then that reveals that he definitely has a problem that needs to be addressed. If he is not taking any stimulating substance to increase his libido, which he obviously does not need, he is currently going through a chemical imbalance. He may or may not require medical treatment at the organic level. From what you described about him, I don't think he requires any psychological evaluation. Prepare a nice dinner for the two of you. Talk this out with him. Explain to him how you feel and how your current sexual activities are interfering with your body and your ability to function normally in daily life. Ask him if he has taken any substance that may have caused this change in behavior. Also mention to him that you would love to have sex with him at the rate of 15 to 20 times weekly that you are comfortable with. I am sure that he will understand.
2006-11-14 13:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, in my 700 some odd years (Sasquatch, ya know?) I have never heard of ANYONE (male, female or otherwise human) having such an ability! An adult Sasquatch is only good for up to 24 times a week, and I can tell you right now, hon ... You ain't no Sasquatch!
Up to 80 times a week? Gads, let me get an agent for you! I could make you (both) a Star!!! Johnny Holmes, put it away ... you got competition!
Just MHO,
The Ol' Sasquatch Ã
2006-11-14 13:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ol' Sasquatch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to ask him about this change and desperate need for sex so often.
Inform him that you are pleased, but you don't understand what's going on with him.
You then need to inform him of your anatomy and how it's now actually hurting you, and what it's doing to you. If it's sore and uncomfortable, the sex is not enjoyable.
If he loves you, he will understand this and back off for awhile, and hopefully also explain why his libido has increased so much.
2006-11-14 12:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by moniquebell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any change in lifestyle or habits signals something. The questions to ask with any behavior are whether it affects health, job, relationships, finances, or gets you in legal trouble. In this case it's relationship and health. This is abnormal and compulsive behavior. You have the right to create boundaries and be honest without fearing that he'll feel "rejected".
2006-11-14 12:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by bdenton2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he a porn addict??? Talk to him and communicate your feelings and also how it's affecting your body. If you suspect it's something mentally or emotionally amiss with him such as a sex addiction.....see a sex therapist or a marriage counselor.
Good lord, do you guys work? Who cleans the house!?!?! LOL
2006-11-14 12:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a strong love, he will want to make you happy and listen to you. I am a guy and know that my wife's feeling come first. I personally don't like sex if she's doing it just for me. I want her to be into it too. If he know's you're only doing it for him, he might care enough to slow down. Does he workout? I know after I workout I have a much higher sex drive. Must be testosterone?
2006-11-14 12:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by moley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can forget about asking you for any side action! Maybe that Blue Smurf Cereal he eats every morning is actually Viagara?
2006-11-14 12:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by MisterRE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, he is trying to wear that thing out. I like that, you go dog, that is what I say. Baby I have not heard of no one dying from being screwed to death by one MAN. Hang in there and match him stroke for stroke. Believe me he will slow down, so enjoy while it last.
2006-11-14 13:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by bigslick60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are times when men go through situations where their sex drives goes into overdrive. ITs normal he should go back to himself soon..if not take him to the doc.
2006-11-14 13:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to back off on the Viagra, your Pu**y can't handle the pressure.
2006-11-14 12:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by Psycomagnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋