My 13 year old daughter is starting to shutt me out..help?

Question

Im a 28 year old Father of three and my oldest is 13..she has just recentley began shutting me out..For instance she comes home from school and i ask her how her day was,she says fine!!...And goes in her room for hours and she hardly talks to me....Why is she doing this we use to be really close,she was "daddy's girl" I miss that...What can I do to help this?And why is my 13 year old daughter shutting me out?...It seems like everything I ask of her..she just wants to do the opposite...

Answer 1

This is totally normal! Please don't take it seriously, it is part of her hormon changes. She isn't a little girl anymore and she isn't a woman yet....she is in between. I raised three kids and even the boys went through this phase. I had long stretches of time when the kids didn't want pictures taken of them. You just need to realize that this is a phase and if you confront her with this constantly she will pull away more. So, when she comes home keep asking her how she is........and when she says fine like in a snotty voice just ignore her. She will grow out of this.

It isn't easy to take as a parent when they pull away from us. because we have become so close to them. Believe me she will come back. My daughter was so rebellious and hateful that I never imagined she would ever be close to me again. She is now 26 years old with her own family, two kids two dogs and a great man in her life. She and I are now best friends.

I remember pulling away from my parents and being so mad when they wanted to hug me or ask me questions about MY life.
I was definatly daddys girl and it wasn't long before I was outgoing with him again.

Hang in there and welcome to the world of teenagers.

Answer 2

It's a natural part of growing up. You can expect more attitude as the years go by. She's starting to have the feeling of wanting to become independent and whatnot. Probably feeling like the world's weight is on her shoulders and naturally, she's gonna shut you out.

I know you feel bad but don't. It's something most teens go through. I went through it and realized how moronic I was being. It shouldn't take her long to get her act straight. So just relax, leave her alone, and see what she does.

You could always go into her room and talk to her. It's probably not what she wants but you're her father and you've provided the roof she has over her head.

Good luck. Hopefully she'll get her reality check soon enough =]

Answer 3

There are some really good books out there to help you and give you some good advice. I am thankful that my daughter, not quite fifteen, has never gone through this. I don't know what I would have done myself, but I do read books by Dr. Dobson and others on relating with your teens. She and I, as she calls it, are tight. For that I feel very thankful. Make sure you stay in her life. I really liked the ideas of someone who answered before me. Take some time for just the two of you. I do this regularly with my daughter. My husband and I take turns doing things with her. Right now the two of them are getting licensed for scuba diving. Find something to do together.

Answer 4

Welcome to the world of teenage girls. Sorry to say, unless you really work on this now, it could continue for some time. I'm assuming you're a loving single father. If that's the case, take her on a night out to dinner, or something. Do it on a Friday or Saturday night, and talk to her. Show interest in whatever she talks about. Bring up movies you both like, rides you used to ride together, anything to get her talking. Even though she won't show it, this is the time she NEEDS you the most. Don't give up on her. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

shes 13 thats what girls do at that age. there isnt much you can do unless you have a deep talk with you and your wife or her mother can talk to together. there is nothing that you can really do.
and again she is growing up. thats what happens and once she looks back she can see that she misses that too. that often happened to me and at 13 after my cat died and my unle passed i thought about the 3 grandparents that i had lost. 1 i never met. then i realized that i needed to form stronger reltaionships with people that way. i am sorry that you have to find it out this way. hopefully you can get a stronger relationship.

Answer 6

as she becoms a teenager,
she's wants more space and privacy from her parents.
every teenager shuts out their parents at some point in life
you should help her when she comes to you
but trying to talk to her and get close to her will just have an opposite effect on your father-daughter realtionship.
afterall, your teenage years are the most confusing time of your life and all you want is some space and privacty from your parents.(and trust!!!)
try to remember how you were at her age and how you wanted more space and privacy from your parents.

Answer 7

Your daughter is growing up. In the 13 to 16 age group they become monsters from another planet. Rule #1: You are always wrong. Hang in there...in 2 or 3 years they return to semi-normalcy.

Answer 8

Don't worry, it is a part of growing up.She now has her own group of friends and her interest are changing, so at this point she is not interested in being daddys little girl. Just give her some time and space and she will come back aroung

Answer 9

I'm also 13 and I do the same thing. I do it because I don't feel like being bothered. She's older now and she isn't daddy's little girl anymore. She wants more time to herself. I know I do.

Answer 10

i'm 13, and wells, perhaps because of some "traditions", i do not treat my parents like the way your daughter (and some of the above ppl) do.

i'm a chinese, and chinese parents take care of their children even if they've grown old. after birth, they still sleep in the same room, unlike most westerners who sleep in a different rm with their children. we, chinese, are nurtured by our parents slowly, by the yrs.

so, perhaps the chinese and western hormones are different? i really do not know. it also depends on your daughter's cliques in school. peer pressure has a really great impact these days.